• HelixDab2@lemm.ee
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    4 months ago

    I mean, yes…? That’s the way sexuality works. Very few people are completely straight or completely gay. A fantastic example is prison; you put a bunch of guys in prison, and most of them are going to be having sex with other men, at least sometimes. It’s not that they’re not straight in any normal sense, but that the overall sex drive is strong enough to overcome gender preferences.

    It’s just not a big deal. Let people be people, as long as everyone involved is consenting, and they aren’t causing direct, immediate harm to other people.

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      4 months ago

      Kinda wild to bring up the sexual repression that we punish our prisoners with, that contributes to the negative outcomes of our “correctional” system, and conclude that it’s “not a big deal”.

      I know what you’re trying to say, but this is the worst example I can imagine.

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        4 months ago

        Would you prefer I used the British Navy in the tall ships era as an example instead?

        Same principle: when you have a bunch of people together with no access to their preferred gender, they’re going to tend to have sex with their non-preferred gender.

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        Heteronormativity is still very much the norm

        Maybe for 30+. It absolutely is not the norm for younger generations. Heck, at that age no one wants to be normal in any case: it’s seen as boring and potentially problematic. All this is to say that I think a lot more people say they are sexually fluid than are actively seeking non-hetero relationships.

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          I think this is one thing that evolves with age rather than being generational. In the 90s a lot of teens and early college students identified very publicly as bi. A few years later, most of the people I knew settled into one way or the other as their hormones came down to earth and their social status settled.