• Comp4 [comrade/them]
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    Mind you, it does work for some people to have different political views and still have a decent relationship. I just think if that’s a problem for you, you should address it pretty early on. Just be straightforward and say something like, 'Hey, I hate taxes, love guns, and am a freedom-loving patriot. There are women like Sarah Palin and Lauren Boebert out there, so even if you are a rightwinger there is hope (at least in that regard).

    Thinking about it, it’s pretty common for right-wingers to hide their power level because they are afraid of even the slightest pushback. When frankly, unless you are a literal fascist, you can do just fine in most situations, jobs, etc.

    Considering my political views are somewhere between the Joker and Posadas, I do have to be “somewhat” flexible with the politics of my partner.

    • Nationalgoatism [he/him]
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      493 months ago

      Mind you, it does work for some people to have different political views and still have a decent relationship.

      My partner is an anarchist for crying out loud and we make things work.

      • CommunistCuddlefish [she/her]
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        I too am in a cross-religious relationship. A certain amount of political diversity is fine so long as the other partner isn’t any flavor of fascist.

      • Tabitha ☢️[she/her]
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        153 months ago

        I knew a kid who thought he was better than everyone else because he was “from texas” and nobody cared because we were fourth graders over 1000 miles away from texas.

    • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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      233 months ago
      • Considering my political views are somewhere between the Joker and Posadas, I do have to be “somewhat” flexible with the politics of my partner.

      tagline please

    • queermunist she/her
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      573 months ago

      Yeah that’s what stood out to me: the relationship didn’t fail because you have different political views, it failed because it was built on deceit!

      • anarchoilluminati [comrade/them]
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        I don’t think they’ll ever be able to comprehend that.

        removed wife bad.

        Edit: Haha Word was a nationalist Feminist that men hate.

  • nothx [he/him]
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    Not weird at all, this is an extremely common marriage dynamic. Many people especially from earlier generations (genx and older) took a very apolitical stance when it came to finding a partner. Some of it is the privilege they enjoy where politics doesn’t directly affect them, some of it is the submissive wife trope where her sociopolitical opinions aren’t important and she is just expected to fall in line behind the man.

    • Greenleaf [he/him]
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      353 months ago

      There was a whole thing when I was younger about celebrity couples where one was a democrat and the other was a republican, and the message was “see they can make it work”.

      Leaving out just how closely aligned their politics actually are given their class position, the political party is just window dressing.

    • WafflesTasteGood [he/him]
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      353 months ago

      Also a lot of “cant have sex out of wedlock or else maw maw gets big mad” and these guys have no clue how to use birth control so they can’t even pretend to be celibate when their partner ends up pregnant.

      • nothx [he/him]
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        223 months ago

        Yeah there is also plenty of that. As well as general sunk-cost fallacy.

  • Kuori [she/her]
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    653 months ago

    lying about your conservative politics to date women should count as some kind of assault

    they wouldn’t have married you if they knew you didn’t see them as people (i know some would, but shhh)

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      293 months ago

      Conservative Panic Defense, where women don’t get charged with murder if they killed a guy after finding out he’s a rightwinger sicko-wistful

  • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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    My partner is an intelligent well-meaning liberal (in comparison to me, a terrible, ill-hearted Leninist).

    Political violence is our only major disagreement.

    She isn’t a fan of the fact that if I ever get a terminal disease then it might be adventure-time for me.

    • Egon [they/them]
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      163 months ago

      Be insufferable and point out the many ways she is completely fine with political violence in her day to day. Point out to her how our system only functions due to actual and implied violence

  • Procapra [comrade/them, she/her]
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    503 months ago

    I’m a Stalin and Mao loving tankie who has happily been in a relationship with an anarchist for almost 2 years. I guess the left just does relationships better. left-unity-3

    • Pili [any, any]
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      253 months ago

      ML and anarchist at least share the same values. Democrats and republican, even though they are both shitlibs, are doomed to annoy each other all the time.

  • BodyBySisyphus [he/him]
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    403 months ago

    My partner and I started out with similar politics but have gradually stopped talking about it as I’ve veered leftward. She wasn’t super interested in hearing about the case for voting uncommitted in the primary. I’ve been wondering about the long term implications but feel like she might be receptive to communism after this shit show of an election

    • JoeByeThen [he/him, they/them]
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      343 months ago

      Don’t just spring it on her. Gotta get her with good communist propaganda. Watch Damnation, any thing by Boots Riley, then Parenti and Chill.

    • Pandantic [they/them]
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      173 months ago

      I’ve had a similar situation with my SO. Been propagandizing them - pointing out the flaws in the system, pointing out when capitalism is the cause of their ills - and, while they agree with me on all my points, they still can’t get past the “it’s the only system that has worked” mentality. I need to get stronger in those cases so I can argue the point.

        • ShimmeringKoi [comrade/them]
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          That’s where I find getting subjective works better. “Why do you think that? Where did you first hear it, and from who? What would have to happen to change your mind?”

  • Pentacat [he/him]
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    393 months ago

    I only know how to translate a little bit of Chud, but I think Sean wants to fuck the guy he’s replying to.

  • ashinadash [she/her]
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    383 months ago

    I was gonna bully cisgender heterosexuals here but tbh I’m a fan of these Miserable Liberal Wives ditching their Republican Outlaw Warrior failhusbands. Lmao.

  • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
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    373 months ago

    What’s more pathetic, guys like this going on twitter to brag about their wives leaving them because they are red-pilled, or guys who attend male “boot camps” to get into shape so their wife will come back and let them see the kids?