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TemutheeChallahmet [none/use name]@hexbear.net to Main, home of the dope ass bear.@hexbear.netEnglish · 11 months ago

Very weird to enter a marriage where you're this detached from your wife

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Very weird to enter a marriage where you're this detached from your wife

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TemutheeChallahmet [none/use name]@hexbear.net to Main, home of the dope ass bear.@hexbear.netEnglish · 11 months ago
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  • Comp4 [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Mind you, it does work for some people to have different political views and still have a decent relationship. I just think if that’s a problem for you, you should address it pretty early on. Just be straightforward and say something like, 'Hey, I hate taxes, love guns, and am a freedom-loving patriot. There are women like Sarah Palin and Lauren Boebert out there, so even if you are a rightwinger there is hope (at least in that regard).

    Thinking about it, it’s pretty common for right-wingers to hide their power level because they are afraid of even the slightest pushback. When frankly, unless you are a literal fascist, you can do just fine in most situations, jobs, etc.

    Considering my political views are somewhere between the Joker and Posadas, I do have to be “somewhat” flexible with the politics of my partner.

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      Mind you, it does work for some people to have different political views and still have a decent relationship.

      My partner is an anarchist for crying out loud and we make things work.

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        I too am in a cross-religious relationship. A certain amount of political diversity is fine so long as the other partner isn’t any flavor of fascist.

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      I hate taxes

      i read texas here and was wondering why the first point was based sicko-wistful

      • Tabitha ☢️[she/her]@hexbear.net
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        I knew a kid who thought he was better than everyone else because he was “from texas” and nobody cared because we were fourth graders over 1000 miles away from texas.

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          under my regime the texian will at last be compelled to shut the fuck up how-compelling

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            Splitting texas into 20 smaller states to destroy their culture of being annoying.

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      • Considering my political views are somewhere between the Joker and Posadas, I do have to be “somewhat” flexible with the politics of my partner.

      tagline please

      • Comp4 [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        Stop it. You are making me blush crush

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      took-restraint

  • SacredExcrement [any, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    You know someone is proud of their views when they hide those views from their partner

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      Yeah that’s what stood out to me: the relationship didn’t fail because you have different political views, it failed because it was built on deceit!

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        I don’t think they’ll ever be able to comprehend that.

        removed wife bad.

        Edit: Haha Word was a nationalist Feminist that men hate.

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    Not weird at all, this is an extremely common marriage dynamic. Many people especially from earlier generations (genx and older) took a very apolitical stance when it came to finding a partner. Some of it is the privilege they enjoy where politics doesn’t directly affect them, some of it is the submissive wife trope where her sociopolitical opinions aren’t important and she is just expected to fall in line behind the man.

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      There was a whole thing when I was younger about celebrity couples where one was a democrat and the other was a republican, and the message was “see they can make it work”.

      Leaving out just how closely aligned their politics actually are given their class position, the political party is just window dressing.

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        Yea, I definitely remember that. It was a whole gotcha moment that I didn’t realize until much much later was just propaganda.

      • NapoleonBlownApart [he/him]@hexbear.net
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        Isn’t this James carvilles schtick?

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          That’s exactly who I had in mind.

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      Also a lot of “cant have sex out of wedlock or else maw maw gets big mad” and these guys have no clue how to use birth control so they can’t even pretend to be celibate when their partner ends up pregnant.

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        Yeah there is also plenty of that. As well as general sunk-cost fallacy.

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    lying about your conservative politics to date women should count as some kind of assault

    they wouldn’t have married you if they knew you didn’t see them as people (i know some would, but shhh)

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      Conservative Panic Defense, where women don’t get charged with murder if they killed a guy after finding out he’s a rightwinger sicko-wistful

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    My partner is an intelligent well-meaning liberal (in comparison to me, a terrible, ill-hearted Leninist).

    Political violence is our only major disagreement.

    She isn’t a fan of the fact that if I ever get a terminal disease then it might be adventure-time for me.

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      Be insufferable and point out the many ways she is completely fine with political violence in her day to day. Point out to her how our system only functions due to actual and implied violence

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    Sad Men circlejerking

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      Lol fuckin losers

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      Yeah I was getting a lot of gay poly vibes from that post.

      E: typo

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    I got your 6 bro 👊😎 ? He gonna fist him in the butthole? 🍑👊😎

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      waow-based

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      data-laughing

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      I believe the world would be a better place if fascists just began fucking eachother instead of competing about who can be most frothingfash

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    If anything this indicates just how low cishet womens standards are in amerika.

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      The bar is in hell and all of society expects women to be subservient and accept constant abuse. It’s nearly impossible to live alone unless you’re rich and many give in to have a small amount of financial comfort

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      i just said this the other day but it’s either that or they die alone

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      At least these cishet women left!

    • gay_king_prince_charles [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.net
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      Maybe the political lesbians were on to something

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    Dear John letter

    Lol they think they’re soldiers so hard

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      Dear John (break up)letter

      “I got the pink slip (was fired)”

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        I was discharged from service (at wendy’s)

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        She gave me the runaround! (Fucked my cousin)

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          “Now I have the clap (gonorrhea)!”

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      I support the brave Jodis (chads) who show these women a good time 07

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    I’m a Stalin and Mao loving tankie who has happily been in a relationship with an anarchist for almost 2 years. I guess the left just does relationships better. left-unity-3

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      ML and anarchist at least share the same values. Democrats and republican, even though they are both shitlibs, are doomed to annoy each other all the time.

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        tbh theory wise and methods wise they are in complete combat, but that just means two organizations of anarchist and ML can’t work together permanently, not two people/

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    Constantly innovating brave new ways to be diverse. (that was supposed to be divorced)

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    My partner and I started out with similar politics but have gradually stopped talking about it as I’ve veered leftward. She wasn’t super interested in hearing about the case for voting uncommitted in the primary. I’ve been wondering about the long term implications but feel like she might be receptive to communism after this shit show of an election

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      Don’t just spring it on her. Gotta get her with good communist propaganda. Watch Damnation, any thing by Boots Riley, then Parenti and Chill.

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        Sorry to Bother You has been on my to watch list for a while!

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          It’s so good

          boots-riley

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          Word! Don’t miss out on I’m a Virgo! stalin-approval

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      I’ve had a similar situation with my SO. Been propagandizing them - pointing out the flaws in the system, pointing out when capitalism is the cause of their ills - and, while they agree with me on all my points, they still can’t get past the “it’s the only system that has worked” mentality. I need to get stronger in those cases so I can argue the point.

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        My challenge has been getting past “We have to work with what we have, even if it sucks”

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          That’s where I find getting subjective works better. “Why do you think that? Where did you first hear it, and from who? What would have to happen to change your mind?”

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    I only know how to translate a little bit of Chud, but I think Sean wants to fuck the guy he’s replying to.

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      Got your six ;) ;) ;) ;)

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        :3

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      bottom-speak You got my six?

      top-use-words I got your six.

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    I was gonna bully cisgender heterosexuals here but tbh I’m a fan of these Miserable Liberal Wives ditching their Republican Outlaw Warrior failhusbands. Lmao.

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      sicko-tear sicko-fem liberty-weeping kelly

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    What’s more pathetic, guys like this going on twitter to brag about their wives leaving them because they are red-pilled, or guys who attend male “boot camps” to get into shape so their wife will come back and let them see the kids?

    • Castor_Troy [comrade/them,he/him]@hexbear.net
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      I’d say the former. Looking for emotional support online is pretty sad and unhealthy.

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        You just called out half the site lol

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          Look, I may be sad and unhealthy, but I would never look for emotional support online!

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