• I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.place
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    4 months ago

    I wouldn’t mind doing it, but I would have to know the partner really well and feel confident that it would be a stable relationship. I remember having a hard time as a kid when I lost my aunt because her and my uncle had a nasty divorce where she went no contact.

    Pros of dating a parent:

    • You can see how they treat those that are vulnerable and dependent on them
    • They’re typically more stable, conscientious, and responsible
    • Good parents know that they have to model healthy behavior, so they practice those
    • You already know what you are getting with the kids, so it’s not a surprise
    • The kids inadvertently tell on the parent if the parent is misrepresenting themselves up front
    • Can do family activities that would normally be considered odd for only adults to partake
    • The many benefits of being a parent
    • If there’s shared custody, you regularly get time off from being a parent
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      4 months ago

      Getting older, with an established career makes spontaneity harder as it is. Add kids to the mix and it’s pretty much impossible.

      I … don’t want that. I like making last minutes plans, 1-2 week long trips, etc. The most limiting factor for me is dropping off my cat at one of my many friends/family members that can watch it (and I reciprocate with their pets).

      If I’m going to date it’s going to be with someone with a compatible lifestyle.