• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    that isn’t change, that’s failure to take responsibility for yourself. which makes for a shitty person, and a shitty partner.

    hence why most radicalized people are shitty human beings. de-radicalizing requires people to realize they are responsible for their choices, and that the world is not some external force oppressing them.

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      4 months ago

      Well it was a change, but I don’t disagree. Instead of trying, he just looked for someone to blame. It’s not like there aren’t external forces but our own actions and thoughts are what we can control, and can make a big difference. He’s doing better now, too late for us but he’s working, paid child support, stopped drinking, still a racist fuck but realized he was his biggest problem and did work on himself.