I started to become interested in feminism over the last few months, but with the last horrifying cases of crimes against women i saw that many feminist women have (reasonably) learned to fear us, or at least, have some resentment towards us (again, reasonably), so, do we have a place in this movement, or we should take a step aside
It’s hard to deal with other’s androphobia but realizing that it’s founded so often in personal experience is kind of the big step a lot of cis guys need. It’s not about making folk feel guilty it’s people stating that these things are problems and brainstorming ways to make things better so in the future there is less fear.
Cis Men are INTEGRAL to this process. So often the reasons things are the way they are isn’t anyone’s individual fault. If your workplace is all guys chances are folk just hired people they knew they would be comfortable around. That’s totally understandable! But If nobody takes the minute to realize that if everybody stays in their comfort zone then society doesn’t change.
A lot of the work of the feminist movement is a shifting target of a multitude of different spaces. Like black feminism and trans feminism had to fission off because certain aspects of privilege were keeping certain voices buried. Where a lot of the discussion is these days is where feminism failed men and they need men’s voices to discuss things in earnest while being understanding and accepting of the trauma that exists in those spaces.