• ChestRockwell [comrade/them, any]@hexbear.net
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    1 month ago

    I think you’re wildly underestimating the amount of assholes servers deal with. Especially women.

    Just tip the 20%, and be mad they aren’t paid a fair wage. Getting mad about rude servers is really reactionary.

    Obviously tipping is evil, but remember refusing to tip is not praxis citations-needed

      • ChestRockwell [comrade/them, any]@hexbear.net
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        1 month ago

        Racism is not the same as trauma dumping. Obviously if someone is blatantly racist or sexist you can withhold your tip. But complaining about having to tip and tying that to the _qualty of service _ is the issue here.

        Complain about the low wages they’re paid (in many states submininum), but getting mad about tipping in this way is a bad look, especially when your post doesn’t mention anything beyond the pale. Also, it doesn’t change that servers should pool tips, tip out to back of house, and unionize. Fundamentally though, we can’t withhold tips systematically to achieve increased wages. So until wages are raised and tipping is banned, you need to tip.

        • Lussy [any, hy/hym]@hexbear.net
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          So until wages are raised and tipping is banned, you need to tip.

          Yeah, that guilt tripping won’t work on me, I always tip. If I were to withhold tips every time I was being given bad service because of my race, I would never tip.