Not to judge too harshly (but I’m about to) but I spend a lot of my work time inside others homes and I constantly see grown ass men with kids and it’s obvious their entire lives revolve around call of duty or fortnite and I’m like wtf? What job do you have that allows you time to play that stuff so intensely and still be a reasonable role model for your kids?? I’m partly jealous and partly wondering if they’re even involved in shit outside of the gaming. I see it all the time, Dad is playing games while the kids are sitting in front of a tablet with headphones on at 2 in the afternoon on a fucking school day and they’re in their underwear or just diapers. Backyard is a disaster filled with dog shit and toys that haven’t been touched in months and I’m in there spraying pesticides to kill the bugs invading their house because no one in that family has even seen a broom less yet used one. These are upscale homes too, not some crack den. It’s fucking depressing to me mostly because you can almost smell the dysfunction.
I know it’s not everyone but it gets to me when I do see it because one day they’re gonna wonder when that kid grew up and why they are so anti social with them or why no one talks to each other.
Rant over I guess. Harangue me if you all want, I know I just did, but I gave that shit up to be a kick ass dad to my daughter and help her discover her interests, not shoving mine in her face or neglecting her interests for my own. My parents sucked and I see a lot of kids who are gonna feel the same as me.
Long story short, I bet Elden ring is the shit so I’m gonna watch YouTube videos about in bed lol.
I think you might have some selection bias going on there if your job is to remove insect infestations from people’s homes. Anyway Soma is a very story focused game so watching a playthrough is a valid alternative to playing it yourself.
My job is 95% just general maintenance. The ones I’m talking about are the rest. I recognize my bias, I admitted as much. Doesn’t make me feel any different though.
I cede your point though I respectfully disagree. I am also a father, and I do not game (haven’t in a couple years, really), but I do not see a problem with leisure activity as an adult. Why are you reading a book? Your child is awake. You shouldn’t ever practice a craft, or go on a walk, or have date night, because otherwise you’re not being a “kickass father” to your daughter. I would say your opinion is reactionary to having neglectful parents, and I empathize and I’m glad you’ve found a rewarding path to raise your child. I like to think that I am a good father, empathetic, authoritative, and yet I still take time to write, play guitar, fuck around online. Becoming a parent should not mean negating one’s own desires and quality of life. Children are not parasites, they are individuals.
The people you describe are, I would say, aberrant and their behavior is not becoming of a good parent.
Lol same. “Bro you should play Elden Ring”. I have maybe an hour a week where I could reasonably play games, it would take me a decade
Not to judge too harshly (but I’m about to) but I spend a lot of my work time inside others homes and I constantly see grown ass men with kids and it’s obvious their entire lives revolve around call of duty or fortnite and I’m like wtf? What job do you have that allows you time to play that stuff so intensely and still be a reasonable role model for your kids?? I’m partly jealous and partly wondering if they’re even involved in shit outside of the gaming. I see it all the time, Dad is playing games while the kids are sitting in front of a tablet with headphones on at 2 in the afternoon on a fucking school day and they’re in their underwear or just diapers. Backyard is a disaster filled with dog shit and toys that haven’t been touched in months and I’m in there spraying pesticides to kill the bugs invading their house because no one in that family has even seen a broom less yet used one. These are upscale homes too, not some crack den. It’s fucking depressing to me mostly because you can almost smell the dysfunction.
I know it’s not everyone but it gets to me when I do see it because one day they’re gonna wonder when that kid grew up and why they are so anti social with them or why no one talks to each other.
Rant over I guess. Harangue me if you all want, I know I just did, but I gave that shit up to be a kick ass dad to my daughter and help her discover her interests, not shoving mine in her face or neglecting her interests for my own. My parents sucked and I see a lot of kids who are gonna feel the same as me.
Long story short, I bet Elden ring is the shit so I’m gonna watch YouTube videos about in bed lol.
I think you might have some selection bias going on there if your job is to remove insect infestations from people’s homes. Anyway Soma is a very story focused game so watching a playthrough is a valid alternative to playing it yourself.
My job is 95% just general maintenance. The ones I’m talking about are the rest. I recognize my bias, I admitted as much. Doesn’t make me feel any different though.
Sorry to disappoint, but you’re just getting props from me.
Yeah, my daughter is just about 2 and I can’t imagine being as disconnected as I’ve seen some parents be
I cede your point though I respectfully disagree. I am also a father, and I do not game (haven’t in a couple years, really), but I do not see a problem with leisure activity as an adult. Why are you reading a book? Your child is awake. You shouldn’t ever practice a craft, or go on a walk, or have date night, because otherwise you’re not being a “kickass father” to your daughter. I would say your opinion is reactionary to having neglectful parents, and I empathize and I’m glad you’ve found a rewarding path to raise your child. I like to think that I am a good father, empathetic, authoritative, and yet I still take time to write, play guitar, fuck around online. Becoming a parent should not mean negating one’s own desires and quality of life. Children are not parasites, they are individuals.
The people you describe are, I would say, aberrant and their behavior is not becoming of a good parent.