• Mothra@mander.xyz
        5·
        1 year ago

        To you and @Dr. Wesker , how old are we talking about? Roughly after how many decades this becomes something you notice- and does it keep building up?

        I’m in my mid 30s and I can agree I don’t feel anywhere as intensely as I did ten years ago, but for me this is a bug, not a feature. So I’m really curious about how others have fared in this regard

      • Dr. Wesker@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
        15·
        1 year ago

        It sounds like a BS answer, but it’s true. My personal experience is that the older I’ve gotten, the less I’m affected by the world around me. My best guess is the experience of time can lend coping mechanisms, under the proper circumstances I’m sure.

          • Dr. Wesker@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
            7·
            1 year ago

            That’s a fair take. But I will say that we just grew a little older together, and I’ll take your point to heart when dealing with others.

            • heyoni@lemm.ee
              2·
              1 year ago

              I get the sentiment, but what is it rooted in? Extreme experiences giving you a new perspective making old anxieties feel like nothing. That’s just statistics. That’s saying that the longer you live, the more likely you are to experience those kinds of things.

          • MrMamiya@feddit.de
            2·
            1 year ago

            It is something you will do though. So you can rest easy on that part. Sometimes the best course of action is to do nothing.

  • yenahmik@lemmy.world
    42·
    1 year ago

    Acknowledge them. Allow yourself to feel them, knowing they are only temporary. The more you try to suppress them, the longer it will take to work through them.

  • Vaggumon@midwest.socialEnglish
    21·
    1 year ago

    I used to be very empathic, I cared so much about the world and everyone in it. Making sure people were taken care of, and hoping for the best for everything. I would get depressed when bad things happened and I couldn’t do anything about it. But as I’ve gotten older and the world has gotten so much worse and it keeps getting worse and worse. I find I’ve adopted an “It is what it is” attitude about nearly everything. I have zero faith in humanity and it’s ability to over come the downward spiral we are in, and doubt we will still be here in 100 years, and frankly have gotten to the point were I feel that might be for the best. Time for the universe to hit reset and start again.

    • Elderos@lemmings.world
      8·
      1 year ago

      We’re not special. Some of us tried, but after a few decades on this earth I am not sure we collectively deserve it.

  • Tiefton@feddit.de
    17·
    1 year ago

    It’s less about the intensity of your emotions and more about how you deal with them.

    Let’s say you got really angry in public. It’s fine to get angry, sometimes there are good reasons for that. But there are multiple ways to deal with that anger. An unhealthy way would be to run amok and harm innocent people in order to vent. A healthy way would be to calm down, reflect on what makes you angry, and then either make an effort to improve your situation or remove yourself from it.

    You can’t help feeling a certain way, but you can choose how you react to your emotions. Try to pick the option that is the least destructive to yourself and those around you. If emotional regulation is hard for you, you can learn coping skills from a therapist.

    • essell@beehaw.org
      5·
      1 year ago

      Techniques to manage the intensity of emotions sit between the parts you’re describing.

      I agree that Inbetween the feeling rising up and our reaction there’s a choice to be made. Highly intense feelings overwhelm and reduce our choices in the moment.

      Understanding what’s underneath or behind our feelings is one excellent way to do this which sadly doesn’t work for everything, especially the most intense feelings

      • MadMenace [she/her]@beehaw.org
        1·
        1 year ago

        This is why I recommend dialectical behavioral therapy. It teaches mindfulness and radical acceptance to reframe your relationship with your emotions in a more healthy light, and also solid techniques for emotion regulation and distress tolerance. It helped me soooo much.

        Edit to add: there is a lot of free DBT material on the internet that you can pursue without a therapist, if there are none available to you at the moment.

  • hoodlem@hoodlem.meEnglish
    13·
    1 year ago

    The box method of breathing for several minutes helps me in immediate situations. And I’ve found doing this on a regular basis helps it become a habit which in general helps me deal with emotions better.

    As someone else posted, medication. If your psychiatrist thinks it is warranted.

    Therapy can be a godsend. Don’t be afraid to hop therapists at the beginning either—find a good match.

    And something that helps me immensely: I use this as a mantra: “I will not always feel like this. Tomorrow I will not feel like this. This will pass.” Treat these strong emotions as a wave you need to ride. But that wave will eventually subside and you cam comfort yourself with that fact.

      • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@midwest.social
        3·
        1 year ago

        Then you pair it with a soundtrack that features songs providing an emotional counterbalance. If you’re feeling depressed, play aggressive music. If you’re feeling stressed, play happy music. If you’re feeling manic, play desperate music, like hopeless love songs. If you’re feeling angry, play something wistful and dreamy. If you’re bored, play dance music. If you’re restless, also play dance music, but push back the furniture and dance to it.

  • erogenouswarzone@lemmy.ml
    10·
    1 year ago

    Med. I. Cation. Specifically Prozac. It works great for me, but we’re all different. Since I’ve been on it, it’s changed my life. So many things were attached to my mental health that I never knew.

    • MadMenace [she/her]@beehaw.org
      2·
      1 year ago

      I tried a bunch of different antidepressants. Lexapro, Zoloft, Prozac, Lamictal, Abilify. None of them helped, just kinda made me feel number and more tired. I gave up for a few years. Then I tried Celexa and it worked. It was like night and day. Holy shit, life is so much better now.

      So try not to feel discouraged if you’ve tried medication and it didn’t help. There’s a ton out there, and more being developed all the time.

      • erogenouswarzone@lemmy.ml
        1·
        1 year ago

        Yeah, I went through a bunch. I haven’t tried that one yet, but it turns out I’m very sensitive to medication, because Vraylar made me feel insane.

        Now they want me to do some sort of drug test, “geo mind” or something like that, which will help me narrow down what medications to try next.

        But 20Mg Fluoxetine is taking really good care of me rn. It gives me a bump like Adderall, which is great for my ADHD, and I feel so calm and not like I wanna just piss everyone off all the time - which is how I have been my entire unmedicated (or heavily self-medicated with alcohol) life.Like I said, things I never knew we’re related to mental health are better now.

        Thanks for sharing your story, I really hope a younger version of me sees this, and decides to talk to a psychiatrist instead of drinking too much.

    • kava@lemmy.world
      4·
      1 year ago

      Drugs and alcohol are a loan. You have to eventually pay back what you’re getting - and with interest.

      Please take it from someone who’s been there - stay away. Using substances to cope with mental health issues is a dangerous road that inevitably leads to one of three options - institutions, sobriety, or death. Only takes one hot shot to send you to space.

      • erogenouswarzone@lemmy.ml
        2·
        1 year ago

        I agree. There are a lot of influential forces telling you to “drink your problems away.” Even my favorite show - It’s always Sunny, says “Force it down with brown.” But please understand the marketing money behind these messages are tremendous.

        Drugs and alcohol push your brain chemistry towards illness. Therapy and medication help bring it back to normal.

  • kava@lemmy.world
    7·
    1 year ago

    I find when I have a balanced life nothing in particular tends to make much of an impact. And when it does, those emotions are important and you shouldn’t try to douse them. For example if your mother dies, it’s normal and healthy to feel devastated.

    What I mean by a balanced life is a meaningful job, fulfilling social relationships both romantic and non-romantic, hobbies and interests- intellectual and physical.

    Stay far away from drugs.

  • AlkaliMarxist@hexbear.netEnglish
    6·
    1 year ago

    Things that work for me, not necessarily recommendations:

    • Mindfulness practices
    • Always be a little bit too busy for comfort, keeps you from dwelling on things
    • Smoke; weed or tobacco, both help
    • Deliberately cultivate positive self-talk, don’t just uncritically accept whatever you mind tells you