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    Idk who needs to hear this but:

    Your children don’t owe you self assurance, if they chose to cut contact with you fully then that’s their right.

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    Pretty obvious that this guy is a stupid asshole, so makes sense. Congrats to his daughters for telling him to fuck himself. I had a parent who said incredibly stupid shit like the “liberalism is a mental disorder” line I would not talk to them either.

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    Slightly off topic:

    When my parents divorced, I was bummed out that I had to attend two thanksgiving dinners. The second was not turkey. We charred hot dogs over an open fire (lived in the midwest at the time) and made smores. It was pretty great.

    This had nothing to do with the election. It’s just a nice memory.

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    “I let them”

    Dudes showing internally he thinks he controls their votes. That he could’ve not let them had he chosen so.

    So his daughters should be thankful for such a benevolent patriarch. /S

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      He clearly said in context “I let them vote in peace without objection or argument frome me”. Kind of like how I can either let your comment go or choose to respond without claiming to have control over you. The man is still ignorant AF though.

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        Your explanation is accurate, but your undercutting the importance of the statement. If you don’t have the power, then you don’t “let people” do anything.

        Which is to say, he was contemplating being a giant a****** and pressuring them to vote the way he wanted, but he decided to use common sense, to not be a jerk, and now he’s asking for a prize for doing what most of us do all the time everyday.

        This doesn’t make him a horrible human being, but it certainly doesn’t make him a good one. In his mind, special rules apply only to him.

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          I’m sorry, I think I misunderstand you. Are you suggesting you’d be an a****** for trying to persuade your friends and family to vote the way you want them to by voicing your objections, opinions, and making arguments?

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      Well it’s kind of semantics. The symbolism behind this is not the hill you’d want to die on. Letting somebody do something can either be allowing it or simply not disallowing it. I hate Trump and his low IQ followers, but that sentence does not imply anything.

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        can either be allowing it or simply not disallowing it

        Exactly.

        When I go take a shit, did you allow it, or not disallow it? Neither, because you have no agency over me, so it’d be a stupid fucking sentence.

        I’m not saying he thinks he owns his daughters like some 16th century inbred minor noble.

        But connotations and implications can exist even when they weren’t particularly intentional by the writer (or speaker.)

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    Ah the classic:

    “Your behaviour has harmed me, so I do not wish to see you anymore”

    “No, wrong, it is YOUR behaviour in saying this that has harmed ME”

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      To be fair, he might have not supported taking their rights… he might have just loved a rapist, criminal so much he was willing to overlook taking away their rights.

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    “I voted for the idea that women aren’t people, now the women in my life don’t like me.”

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    With lines like “[your political opinion] is a mental disorder”, why is he surprised they aren’t coming?

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          I’m just pointing out that both sides think the other is dumb.

          And I don’t think either side is correct.

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            You think I’m unaware that some Harris voters would say “Conservatism is a mental disorder”? Is that your point?

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        Touché

        It’s kinda sad that we ended up in this political division. It’s also sad that increasing hate and and anxiety (and missing education and reasoning) fuels this dumpfire of societal development. That doesn’t really increase hope in the future, as stuff like climate change further accelerates this…

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          I don’t see it so much a political division as it is that most of the world is simply not very intelligent.

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            It’s both, and not a contradiction? But I’d say the USA is indeed more progressed with this. Like both sides. They got really intelligent people but a lot of dumb people. Compared to other western societies, more, the toll of slowly erroding education and the split between poor and rich is progressing harder. Same with things like obesity which as we know of research is bad for brain development (rather the food that leads to this).

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              Yes I think intelligence is a spectrum and that neither side is more “correct” than the other.

              I think there’s good and bad ideas from both sides depending on your perspective, and we have to concede that nobody has all the answers, and that we don’t know what we don’t know.

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    “My kids don’t want to hang out with me after I dismissed their opinions as a mental disorder and the party I voted for tries to control their bodies! Why must I suffer? I didn’t do anything to them directly! These kids today are so unfaaaair!”

    What a jackass.

    I hope his kids have a great holiday. Good on them for standing up for their beliefs.

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      Oh nonononono - you see, when Trump does it, he gets the good words: HE is “good at nicknames”, “strong” and “tells it like it is”. When anybody Trump doesn’t like does the exact same thing, then they are being childish, rude and it is altogether absolutely inacceptable.

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    merely because they believe my one vote…

    He thinks his vote doesn’t contribute or something?

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    “Liberalism is a mental disorder” These people are very telling how they treat people who they think legitimately have mental illness.

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      Conservatives 🤝 Liberals
      “The political positions I dislike are caused by mental illness”

      Socialists: "Hey guys maybe we could try not denigrating mental disorders? Maybe we could try building a left wing that welcomes and accepts the neurodivergent and marginalised?

      Liberals: “Fuck you, we’ll never accept psychopaths like Trump!”

      Socialists: “I never agreed with you that Trump is a psychopath. We don’t have to accept Trump in order to treat ASPD folks with dignity!”

      Liberals: “You’re disgusting, enabling abusers like that. If we treat psychopaths with basic dignity, they’ll only use it to abuse us!”

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        Words like psychopath have a common usage for people not in psychology/psychiatry. I’m sorry that we’re not meeting the clinical definition that you want, but I don’t think ranting about it all over Lemmy is going to help anything.

        When the average nonspecialist individual thinks “psychopath” they think of someone like Hannibal Lecter, who is dangerous and must be locked up to prevent them harming others, and that’s not going to change from a short form text post. It would take a semester of psychology.

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                  Actually, flies love vinegar. It smells like rotting flesh, which is a great place to go lay eggs.

                  This unintuitive fact matches the truth that being rude to people is an important part of the process of personal growth. Getting people to change takes a carrot AND a stick. When they do change, they’ll remember the carrot more easily. But the stick is important too. You can see this politically with the fact that the government likes to praise MLK for his nonviolent methods, but Malcolm X is the one who got Reagan to pass gun control laws in California. MLK’s movement was threatening because the politicians knew that if they didn’t work with the nonviolent protesters, those protesters would join movements like the Black Panthers. Likewise, rude leftists encourage people to be more open to listening to the polite leftists in their lives. The rude ones raise the stakes.

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            That’s a very vague statement. You didn’t specify which type of empathy. For example, cognitive empathy is the ability to intuit what other people are thinking. Autistic people tend to have less cognitive empathy, which is related to the poor social skills. It’s hard to participate in social situations when you have a clinically significant inability to read minds. Drag doesn’t think you want to treat autistic people with suspicion, so why don’t you work on clarifying your statement to an appropriate level of specificity?

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    It might be because this guy voted for trump, and that would be justifiable, but it’s more likely that it’s because they have made MAGA their entire personality. Their twitter feed is just a non stop bullshit feed filled with retweets from the usual suspects, there’s no self taken photos, no fun shitposts, nothing about hobbies or events they go to… just transphobia, bullshit and even praise towards Matt Gaetz ffs. Who would want to spend a dinner with someone like that.

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      I have a family member that doesn’t get this (thankfully just the one). It’s not that he voted for Trump, it’s all the shit he says. The casual “haha jk” racism when I introduced him to a Hispanic friend of mine. The fact that he will loudly talk about some things specifically to upset or annoy people. The fact that he thinks politics is a team sport and Trump’s win is a personal victory for him that somehow means he “beat” the rest of us.

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        “It’s not because you voted for Trump. It’s because you’re the kind of person who would vote for Trump.”

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        Do we have the same dad?

        Edit: Actually we cant be related, because this describes both parents, my little brother, and all my aunts/uncles/cousins, and grandparents and you said “One person”.

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      Although even if a person appears to be decent human being, if they voted for Trump that tells you everything you need to know about who they really are. The whole “when people tell you who they are, believe them” deal.

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      Hit the nail on the head. I am surrounded by conservatives at work. I’m friends with most. There is a huge difference between someone who leans right and the online MAGA trolls. They simply believe everything they see on Fox News.

      We do have one guy who is like that, and everyone collectively rolls their eyes every time he says something. Everyone has met someone like this… tries to say something provocative, and acts surprised when someone is offended. “Oooohhh you can’t say anything anymore. It was a joke!”

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      It works on the other side too - e.g. “I’m vegan btw, and voting to restrict access to your ability to eat meat”.

      The difference seems to be that there was no incentive for Putin to set vegans vs. meat eaters against one another, while he very much is getting a ton out of having set conservatives against liberals. Whatever way we choose to fight one another, he wins.

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        Uh…who’s voting to restrict access to meat again? What rights are “the other side” trying to restrict?

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        I realize your point is that Russia is trying to find any wedge issue they can to cause infighting, but that was a frustrating example.

        A lot of Trump supporters are voting to cause direct harm to marginalized groups, and have made it a part of their daily identity. “If I caught a man using the same bathroom as my daughter, I’d fuck him up.” (real quote from someone I know)

        A vegan voting to get rid of meat subsidies simply doesn’t want to pay for your meat. Or voting for animal rights isn’t voting to cause you direct harm like blocking crucial medical care. Also, most vegans usually keep to themselves. The only reason it seems like they tell everyone is how often they are asked, “wait, are you vegetarian?” every time they dare to order tofu/veggies instead of meat.

        Source: I’m not even vegan or vegetarian, but have probably been asked a hundred times. I can only imagine how often a vegan is asked that question.

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        It works on the other side too - e.g. “I’m vegan btw, and voting to restrict access to your ability to eat meat”.

        Who’s doing this?

        The difference seems to be that there was no incentive for Putin to set vegans vs. meat eaters against one another,

        Oh, you sweet summer child.