Since so many commenters can’t seem to imagine it: children don’t need punishment. I never got “disciplined” at home. No physical punishment, no time out. And I never hurt anybody, wasn’t a bully, always had a trusting relationship with my parents. Things weren’t perfect, far from it, but punishment or making children feel bad on purpose were not what was missing. Those have been scientifically proven to be counterproductive. To many people cling to them, because they’re what they experienced and they never learned how to actually talk to children instead and maybe even help them work through their emotions (actually that last part kind of was missing in my case, but that’s beside the point). That video posted in the other comment explains it well.
They cling to those wrongheaded ideas because religious zealots still ardently push them, despite being the source of trauma to millions. Religion is child abuse, and abusers love religion.
Since so many commenters can’t seem to imagine it: children don’t need punishment. I never got “disciplined” at home. No physical punishment, no time out. And I never hurt anybody, wasn’t a bully, always had a trusting relationship with my parents. Things weren’t perfect, far from it, but punishment or making children feel bad on purpose were not what was missing. Those have been scientifically proven to be counterproductive. To many people cling to them, because they’re what they experienced and they never learned how to actually talk to children instead and maybe even help them work through their emotions (actually that last part kind of was missing in my case, but that’s beside the point). That video posted in the other comment explains it well.
They cling to those wrongheaded ideas because religious zealots still ardently push them, despite being the source of trauma to millions. Religion is child abuse, and abusers love religion.