For example, a birthday can only be “ruined” when the birthday person declares it to be ruined.
Because it’s a way of controlling others.
This post but for people who get mad about the badposting comm
Beanis posting ruined badposting!
Meanwhile, Beanis posters:
It’s telling how angry people get about a happy little bean
Control through guilt.
Nobody wants an event to be ruined, and the narcissist knows this and uses it as a weapon to get what they want.
They wanted it to go one way and it doesn’t. And to them, that means “it’s ruined”. They need to realize if it’s not “their” event, then yeah, they shouldn’t get to decide how it should go, even if it’s not to their liking.
ngl I don’t think it has much to do with narcissism, but more with control. I have autism and sometimes, I think some activities I try to do are ruined because I can no longuer control how I do them.
Something I learned from listening to podcasts about comedy and stand up is to never tell the audience they are getting a bad show. If you think you are bombing and start trying to lampshade it you admit to the audience you don’t have control over the situation and they start to have a bad time.
P.s. I was thinking of narcissists who will never be satisfied or seem to enjoy ruining events, not necessarily just being disappointed with something. Im sorry you feel that way sometimes
Narcissists can view things like mood and emotion almost like the weather, not as their own personal emotions, but as a vague sort of miasma hanging over the room. So if the narcissist is mad or embarrassed, the whole room is, according to them, and any evidence to the contrary is just a “lie”. So if they see behaviour they don’t like, they interpret it as if it had just started pouring down on a picnic sort of thing.
Additionally, special events act as a major source of stress and drama for narcissists, if they aren’t the centre of attention, they have to play nice so they don’t come across as the “bad guy” but if someone else “ruins” the event, then they get to act as mad as they want, because someone else is the designated “bad guy” of the event.
It’s very non-intuitive psychology and difficult to understand if you’ve never been around narcissists.
