• frankpsy@lemm.ee
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    4 days ago

    I really feel like this is an idea that needs to die. Plenty of abusive and hateful men seem to have no problems with getting the type of relationships they want; this just inadvertently promotes the idea that one needs to be a ‘nice guy’ in order to have a relationship. Not every guy who leans left succeeds in wooing a woman, and right wingers complaining about where the women are at are probably in circles with primarily left-leaning women and they need to go look in a church or country concert or something.

    • gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 days ago

      Yeah, i even suspect that what makes men turn a bit more to the right with age is the realization that it’s more likely to find a woman-partner this way.

      I.e., adapting “work hard” way of thinking to earn more money, because women are ultimately also largely attracted to wealth.

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      4 days ago

      this just inadvertently promotes the idea that one needs to be a ‘nice guy’

      I think if anything we have radically fucked up the messaging if we think “not being a nazi” means “being a niceguy.”