Okay, you are seriously terminally online. “Let’s grab a drink” is a classic first date. I can go to literally dozens of bars tonight and see tons of people out on first dates over a reasonable amount of alcohol. Like, Jesus fucking Christ you’re off the deep end if you think this constitutes creepy behavior.
That a lot of people have a problem with drinking and drug abuse and we have a toxic drinking culture doesn’t make it a good idea to join in on it.
Many women are victims to sexual violence and domestic violence during their life. While these also happen without alcohol or other drugs, these increase the chance of violence significantly.
If you are serious about the other person, stay sober.
It is only anecdotically but none of the people i know had a club/bar/festival relationship survive. And when they ended, they ended with a lot of drama. One couple i knew briefly that went to parties together all thf time later accused each other of being violent.
Meanwhile the people that met through shared hobbies and friends do quite well, or managed to end their relationships in a respectful manner when things didnt work out.
But i guess not doings drugs and warning of their detriment means i am being “terminally online”. After all, all the cool kids do drugs. And the older they get while doing that, the cooler they get…
Okay, you are seriously terminally online. “Let’s grab a drink” is a classic first date. I can go to literally dozens of bars tonight and see tons of people out on first dates over a reasonable amount of alcohol. Like, Jesus fucking Christ you’re off the deep end if you think this constitutes creepy behavior.
That a lot of people have a problem with drinking and drug abuse and we have a toxic drinking culture doesn’t make it a good idea to join in on it.
Many women are victims to sexual violence and domestic violence during their life. While these also happen without alcohol or other drugs, these increase the chance of violence significantly.
If you are serious about the other person, stay sober.
It is only anecdotically but none of the people i know had a club/bar/festival relationship survive. And when they ended, they ended with a lot of drama. One couple i knew briefly that went to parties together all thf time later accused each other of being violent.
Meanwhile the people that met through shared hobbies and friends do quite well, or managed to end their relationships in a respectful manner when things didnt work out.
But i guess not doings drugs and warning of their detriment means i am being “terminally online”. After all, all the cool kids do drugs. And the older they get while doing that, the cooler they get…