I say I am 8. Perhaps one could get used to it by practice. But I made bad experiences and constantly afraid of personal attacks based on ultra-quick judgment.
I fear being a nuisance to anybody so I rarely ask for help, even if it’s their job. 6/10 for that, it has improved.
If it’s just for the sake of being social, then it’s a 9/10. If I don’t have obvious common ground with people it’s nearly impossible for me.
Few years back I was invited to a party of a friend where I knew no one but her (and she was super busy). The people there were just so different to me, I could not find a conversation starter and was honestly not really interested in their lives anyways. It was a horrible time and I left early.
But somehow, once I find the right hook I can be quite charming and funny and even sometimes the center of attention, even around strangers. 2/10. It really depends on the situation, vibe and people.
But even if it’s going very well, my social battery runs low after some hours and I need alone time. The less effort I need to put in the longer I can go.
Depends on the place and the people around.
Pride? 0, easy.
Anti-Trump protest? On my side of the line, easy 2-3.
Need help at the grocery store? Eh. 4. If it ain’t that important, it ain’t that important.
Texas? Inside Austin, 7.
Outside of Austin? 10.
Big sea of red hats like it was a sea of red armbands in Berlin? Fuck that.
It depends on the situation. If its for a functional reason (like asking for help in a store) then I have no issue at all but, if its just to be social, that stresses me out as I’m terrible at making conversation
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Who gives a shit? They’re probably more afraid of me than I am of them.
They’re stuck here with ME.
I subscribe to that logic, but im still at a 6 or 7. I had serious anxiety problems a long time ago and im still on the nervous side, though its nowhere near as crippling as it was.
Trouble is im built like Desperate Dan, and if its sunny ill catch my own reflection in shop windows and shit myself because “Holy jesus he looks mean and he’s so close and… its me isnt it…”
Afraid? 0
Dislike? 11This is the underrated answer
Spot on.
Somewhere between 3 and 5.
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theyre just people, with possibly very shitty opinions. your issue is weighting their opinions disproportionately to your relationship with them (none).
if youre happy with yourself, other peoples attacks hold no power.
also, i like to keep the old quote in mind ‘be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.’ as it helps maintain perspective when speaking to people who could react negatively.
Yeah, and attacks rarely get physical I guess, but somehow that always weights in the back of my mind as well.
Used to be like 8 or 9, but now it’s around 4. I have been streaming for 2 years and that’s likely the cause.
Recently I have been enjoying talking to random people more. Mostly old people like to initiate conversations with me, and we don’t even talk about crazy things. The conversations are more about how they are doing and it’s good to know that they are still kicking.
It’s entirely vibe based, some people I’d talk to no problem but other people… hell nah. Overall I’d say 2/10
Depends what kind of talking. I’d rather chat lightly with a total stranger (I’ll help you find what you’re looking for in the grocery store for instance) than get into long deep conversations with family or friends who can bring up deeply personal uncomfortable topics.
Hence hanging out in Lemmy.
Like a 2. Not that I’m not nervous talking to strangers, but I’m also nervous talking to anyone.
1 being not afraid, 10 being terrified?
I am a 1.
Second this. YOLO the heck out. Met my hommies thru this.
I say I am 8
…says the person asking complete strangers.
I know you said IRL, but we are real… Honest.
in real life
And so it was confirmed. @wewbull@feddit.uk was no real person, and neither was I. Trapped eternally as fragments of @glowing_hans@sopuli.xyz’ imagination.
In a big city it depends who starts.
No problem starting a discussion with someone if it’s for a reason or natural flow of the situation.
If somebody starts talking to you out of the blue, there is a very good chance he/she is a mental case, junkie, proselyting, selling something or all above.
yeah I guess this question is about myself being forced to initiate a conversation (for example a question). I was not precise.
Depends on the context.
Most people would probably be like a 3, but if it’s an attractive woman probably like an 8. Even though im married and have no interest, lots of attractive women view me speaking to them as a threat and react aggressively. Being ugly is so fun 🙂
