• Cethin@lemmy.zip
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    3 days ago

    You are very wrong in your assumption. Most people don’t ask someone if they’re fertile before being attracted to them. That’d be fucking weird. I’m confident in saying that’s not a thought in most men’s minds when, for example, they watch porn.

    There’s a difference between being attracted to someone and wanting to be in a relationship with someone though. There’s a hell of a lot more people I’m attracted to than I’d want to be married to.

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      3 days ago

      oh yeah i totally messed up in thinking attracted meant wanting a relationship. and i don’t mean they’d ask, that would be weird. i meant that if they discovered somehow that someone is infertile (like if they said it), they’d be less attracted to them.

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      3 days ago

      Aaaactshually… I think that most hetero men are attracted to women that look like they are likely to be fertile. Argument: most mainstream, male-targeting hetero porn features women between 18 and, say, 40 or so. I do not believe that the average hetero man consciously thinks, hey, she looks like she could have my kids when it comes to raw attraction, it is more likely that things that are correlated with fertility (health, age, secondary sexual characteristics) are commonly seen as attractive.