This is a shot in the dark but check if there are kava bars where you live. Easiest places I’ve found to make friends but I’m in Florida where they’re common so your mileage may vary
I’ll spare the details but I just had a weekend with a magical group of trans allies. If we could teleport, you’d have 16 people appear in your bedroom to crowdsurf you through getting showered and dressed and on your way to a happier place.
I’ve hit up one of my new friends to see what info I can relay to someone in your situation. I’ll follow up when I hear back.
They’re experienced with guiding people through transitions/HRT so I defer to their expertise.
They tell me that it’s unfortunately common for there to be “doomers” online who gain a small sense of relief via feeling like they can control their situation by describing it as futile. They say “those people need to help themselves first; there’s no way our resources would help until a foundation of commitment to self betterment is present.”
They said one could be guided to resources online without that self help commitment, but their tone sounded like they thought a random internet commentor is unlikely to get much value out of said resources.
I’d guess reflecting on your situation (independent of the comments we see here) might help you estimate your own readiness to pursue help.
A first or preliminary step may be to begin talk therapy with a professional. That may be a good way to get pointed to the right resources for any next steps.
It didn’t occur to me earlier, but your location would affect what specific options are available to you. My contact works in the Ohio River Valley area of the US but I didn’t consider that you might be outside of the US or in some place where resources just don’t exist.
Idk if any of this helps. I probably committed some SJW trope and ignorantly thought the answers were gonna be more black and white.
Regardless of whether you find the kind of happiness OP did, you deserve that happiness just as much as anyone.
This will never be me. And I wake up every day wanting to end it. Because I am incapable of the social labor necessary for a friendship.
Edit: Okay so in insight, this is very depressing even for me. This post as a big impact on me.
Get yourself a friend with as little capability for social labour as you have, and then have a really mild friendship with them
This is a shot in the dark but check if there are kava bars where you live. Easiest places I’ve found to make friends but I’m in Florida where they’re common so your mileage may vary
I appreciate the suggestion. I have been trying to drag myself to a book-cofee place. Just, it’s taking a lot out of me
I’ll spare the details but I just had a weekend with a magical group of trans allies. If we could teleport, you’d have 16 people appear in your bedroom to crowdsurf you through getting showered and dressed and on your way to a happier place.
I’ve hit up one of my new friends to see what info I can relay to someone in your situation. I’ll follow up when I hear back.
They got back to me. Paraphrasing below:
They’re experienced with guiding people through transitions/HRT so I defer to their expertise.
They tell me that it’s unfortunately common for there to be “doomers” online who gain a small sense of relief via feeling like they can control their situation by describing it as futile. They say “those people need to help themselves first; there’s no way our resources would help until a foundation of commitment to self betterment is present.”
They said one could be guided to resources online without that self help commitment, but their tone sounded like they thought a random internet commentor is unlikely to get much value out of said resources.
I’d guess reflecting on your situation (independent of the comments we see here) might help you estimate your own readiness to pursue help.
A first or preliminary step may be to begin talk therapy with a professional. That may be a good way to get pointed to the right resources for any next steps.
It didn’t occur to me earlier, but your location would affect what specific options are available to you. My contact works in the Ohio River Valley area of the US but I didn’t consider that you might be outside of the US or in some place where resources just don’t exist.
Idk if any of this helps. I probably committed some SJW trope and ignorantly thought the answers were gonna be more black and white.
Regardless of whether you find the kind of happiness OP did, you deserve that happiness just as much as anyone.