(i’m asking a discussion question for more advice +update ig)
my girlfriend ivy is a gamer. she plays video games “with the boys” (her guy friends) for hours non-stop and doesn’t do much else. her whole life is dedicated to video games. she is passionate about them and they are her main interest.
lately we’ve been having a problem of her not wanting to go out with me or spend time one-on-one because she wants to play games with the lads.
by the time i was able to ask her if she wanted to go somewhere, she was already in a game and didn’t want to pause it. then, i asked her when she finally stopped hours later to take a break.
her response was “nah, i don’t really like that place. but you can go if you want and you can watch me play games when you’re done”.
i enjoy her company and she still talks to me when we play video games but i wanna do other things other than just playing/watching video games.
she, however, doesn’t really get it and doesn’t wanna go out or do anything else. i guess i will just suck it up because she still talks to me?? please don’t criticize me for this and be civil. i just wanna hear what you did in a gamer relationship.
Happy for you! Do xommunicate your expectations and needs and try to find a compromise.