I find it hard to find people though. I do my regular activity and hobbies and go about my life, I make friends but they’re mostly guys. I’m also not the type to ask every cute girl out. Idk, I still got one more year at school so maybe something will happen
That’s just not true. Get a hobby. There are tons of people doing activities all the time in groups all over the world. Climbing, painting, sewing, there’s hundreds of thousands of activities you can do and people in every one of those groups.
Can confirm. I met both of my girlfriends (sequential, not parallel) at meetups for a certain online community. And I wasn’t even looking; it happened organically.
Turns out that if you go where people are basically guaranteed to share at least some of your interests, it becomes much easier to find someone you gel with.
Protip: Don’t go looking to find a partner, try to make friends. If one of those friends ends up dating you, so much the better. If none do, you still made friends and that goes a long way already.
Personally, I found work to also be an avenue to meet friends. You already share so much time together, it’s easy to build routines and find some common interests over time. There is less risk that in other settings, so if you don’t immediately click it’s no big deal and everybody likes a mildly positive and extrovert coworker (emphasis on mildly: either you strike up a conversation or you shield them from having to take part in one). Then friends of friends is the way to expand the circle
I find it hard to find people though. I do my regular activity and hobbies and go about my life, I make friends but they’re mostly guys. I’m also not the type to ask every cute girl out. Idk, I still got one more year at school so maybe something will happen
School is a great place to meet people organically. Talk to your class mates. Even if they’re not a girl you want to talk to maybe they know someone.
Outside of school sadly dating apps are the only way to meet people. And they’re not good.
That’s just not true. Get a hobby. There are tons of people doing activities all the time in groups all over the world. Climbing, painting, sewing, there’s hundreds of thousands of activities you can do and people in every one of those groups.
Can confirm. I met both of my girlfriends (sequential, not parallel) at meetups for a certain online community. And I wasn’t even looking; it happened organically.
Turns out that if you go where people are basically guaranteed to share at least some of your interests, it becomes much easier to find someone you gel with.
Protip: Don’t go looking to find a partner, try to make friends. If one of those friends ends up dating you, so much the better. If none do, you still made friends and that goes a long way already.
This is the key.
Personally, I found work to also be an avenue to meet friends. You already share so much time together, it’s easy to build routines and find some common interests over time. There is less risk that in other settings, so if you don’t immediately click it’s no big deal and everybody likes a mildly positive and extrovert coworker (emphasis on mildly: either you strike up a conversation or you shield them from having to take part in one). Then friends of friends is the way to expand the circle
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