• PlasticLove@lemmy.today
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    Can’t.

    I spent my whole life being told to not be a creep, don’t just go up to women they don’t want random men approaching them, they’re at the club for a good time with friends, etc.

    So that only leaves online dating and I’m not a 10/10 so never get a match.

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      Play a sport that involves girls. Met many ladies by being above average at badminton. Does require some discipline to get gud first

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      8 hours ago

      You’ve reduced your options to online dating or hooking up with club girls. I’d start by expanding those options.

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      So that only leaves online dating and I’m not a 10/10 so never get a match.

      Bullshit. That’s just toxic internet culture talking. You may have to put some effort in your profile, but it worked for me and I’m a 6 at best.

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        From my experience online dating (as a man) is a complete waste of time. In about one year I got like 10 matches at Max and half of those didnt even had any form of somewhat decent communication.

        I did put quite some effort into my profile but it didnt help anything.

        Now since I switched sides I have gotten more likes in a single week than I got in a whole year just because I switched from male to female. I Am pre everything, so I dont even look remotely feminine and most of my pictures are kinda ass, but I dont really bother to make some good ones.

        From my experience online dating as a man is either hit or miss. A friend of mine had luck with it several times, but at least for me online dating was the biggest waste of time of my life.

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        Been doing it for a few months now and no matches. Rejected 4 times in real life. Also, because of other preconditions my capacity for social interaction is very limited.

        I hate when people say “just put in some effort”. I’m doing it, I’m giving it all I have but I did so for about 10 years now and I got nothing. I don’t hate the people that rejected me but this can’t be normal, and I’m not the only one.

        I’m happy for people where it works out but I feel immense pain knowing I’m back to square one for the 4th time. And let’s not kid ourselves, 10 years going by doesn’t exactly make me more attractive.

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      14 hours ago

      So don’t be a creep, meet people as they are, don’t meet people expecting them to have sex with you

      Work on yourself, go to therapy, get a hobby or read a book, join a reading group.

      You have to be a part of a community to meet people. You can’t just hang out on the internet posting about how unfair it all is, and expect anything to magically change

      take care

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      Online dating has also been poisoned by creepy dudes. A lady I matched to on Bumble told me that when she matched to some guy and when the dude realized they lived close enough, he wanted to have a quick one night stand with her. Now, this dude was supposedly a surgeon. So, it makes things difficult for all of us, who are looking for something more stable and long term.