That’s really homophobic actually. Like I’m a bit of a freak, but I have friends through our shared queerness that absolutely aren’t. My friend who just wants a stable life to raise kids in a monogamous relationship with her wife in the suburbs still suffers from homophobia, she doesn’t judge me for being a poly leather weirdo, she just treats me as a cherished friend and fellow lesbian, and it would be wrong for me to treat her any differently.

Edit: saw your explanation and yeah, I’m leaving my message because it was a gut response that isn’t wrong to what I and others interpreted, but your explanation is absolutely correct and ironically this same friend is exactly what you mean people should be like. Her wife is bi and she’s never hesitated to stand up for us freakier queers