eh, it can work. when my wife was well enough to cook we’d divide it like she washes, I chop and prep, and she cooks, then we split cleaning. Now I’m doing all of that and I really appreciate the occasions where we have a friend visiting who is willing to do some prep and cleaning. I usually do the cooking even when I have help, mostly because it’s rare to find someone who knows how to cook what we eat. But I’m always eager to have help.
Before my mom got to the point of not being able to cook anymore, we routinely cooked together for most of my life (as in, from the age of about 8 until I was 31. I’m 34 now). It was wonderful. We’d get excited, try new things, make little rest batches to try out new spice ideas. Cooking with someone else, someone that you love, get along with, is a fantastic experience. It adds so much to life. Cooking, food, meals, eating, it’s our most basic and lasting form of art, a showcase of love and expression. Doing that collaboratively can be a really splendid thing.
if you don’t mind me asking, is your wife still with you?
She is. She has cancer and spends a lot of time resting. She has more energy in the morning. She makes her breakfast. But I do all the cooking at night and usually lunch too.
I’m with you. You can absolutely have two people in the kitchen… But only one can be in charge. My wife and I love cooking together, but if it is her meal or baking then she’s in charge. I do things her way, and I stay out of the way if I need to. It can’t be a competition or battle of wills. Someone leads, and someone willingly swallows their pride and washes the excessive number of measuring spoons or chops celery finer than they personally prefer it, or stands-by patiently while their partner curses at the recipe being half in metric and half imperial measurements.
I’m glad you and your wife were able to share that. Or whatever version of that was yours.
Yeah. It was a lot like that. She’d find a recipe to try, or want one of her favorites, and I’d just ask her how she wanted things chopped and prepped.
eh, it can work. when my wife was well enough to cook we’d divide it like she washes, I chop and prep, and she cooks, then we split cleaning. Now I’m doing all of that and I really appreciate the occasions where we have a friend visiting who is willing to do some prep and cleaning. I usually do the cooking even when I have help, mostly because it’s rare to find someone who knows how to cook what we eat. But I’m always eager to have help.
Before my mom got to the point of not being able to cook anymore, we routinely cooked together for most of my life (as in, from the age of about 8 until I was 31. I’m 34 now). It was wonderful. We’d get excited, try new things, make little rest batches to try out new spice ideas. Cooking with someone else, someone that you love, get along with, is a fantastic experience. It adds so much to life. Cooking, food, meals, eating, it’s our most basic and lasting form of art, a showcase of love and expression. Doing that collaboratively can be a really splendid thing.
if you don’t mind me asking, is your wife still with you?
She is. She has cancer and spends a lot of time resting. She has more energy in the morning. She makes her breakfast. But I do all the cooking at night and usually lunch too.
I can’t imagine what that must be like, but I’m glad to hear you still have each other. <3
I’m with you. You can absolutely have two people in the kitchen… But only one can be in charge. My wife and I love cooking together, but if it is her meal or baking then she’s in charge. I do things her way, and I stay out of the way if I need to. It can’t be a competition or battle of wills. Someone leads, and someone willingly swallows their pride and washes the excessive number of measuring spoons or chops celery finer than they personally prefer it, or stands-by patiently while their partner curses at the recipe being half in metric and half imperial measurements.
I’m glad you and your wife were able to share that. Or whatever version of that was yours.
Yeah. It was a lot like that. She’d find a recipe to try, or want one of her favorites, and I’d just ask her how she wanted things chopped and prepped.