The messaging on this note could use some refinements.
How can something that is very much a burden to you not be a burden for the people around you? Are they somehow that much stronger than you? There’s a hint of cognitive dissonance to accept the message as written.
I prefer the mentality of acknowledging that people who care will eagerly help carry the burdens of others if the relationship is treated with love, respect, and reciprosity.
You might have problems that feel very bursensome to yourself, but to others it is an opportunity to show their support. A hard situation can strengthen relationships instead of being isolating. So having burdens doesn’t make you undesirable, it just means you need good collaborators to help carry and maybe eventually resolve them with you.
Yeah, feelings are tricky. But they can sometimes be manipulated.
Often, feelings will follow our actions. So acting according to what we know to be true (e.g., you are valuable) even if we don’t feel it yet can bring our feelings around.
So take care of yourself, treat yourself well, and you may start feeling it too :)
The trouble is FEELING it though.
The messaging on this note could use some refinements.
How can something that is very much a burden to you not be a burden for the people around you? Are they somehow that much stronger than you? There’s a hint of cognitive dissonance to accept the message as written.
I prefer the mentality of acknowledging that people who care will eagerly help carry the burdens of others if the relationship is treated with love, respect, and reciprosity.
You might have problems that feel very bursensome to yourself, but to others it is an opportunity to show their support. A hard situation can strengthen relationships instead of being isolating. So having burdens doesn’t make you undesirable, it just means you need good collaborators to help carry and maybe eventually resolve them with you.
Yeah, feelings are tricky. But they can sometimes be manipulated.
Often, feelings will follow our actions. So acting according to what we know to be true (e.g., you are valuable) even if we don’t feel it yet can bring our feelings around.
So take care of yourself, treat yourself well, and you may start feeling it too :)