• TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    20 days ago

    “Since I have autism, am I able to truly understand the presentation aspect of gender?”

    You’ll probably have to learn them more explicitly than intuitively, like most social customs when you’re autistic. That doesn’t mean you won’t eventually figure things out, and it will probably be easier than learning male social norms. I still don’t fully understand men, while understanding women has been easier, even when I make mistakes.

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      20 days ago

      Yeah, I need to drop the whole “if it’s not perfect then why do it” attitude.

      This might be an invasive question, but would you care to share how long you’ve been on your journey? Not that I intend to disregard your advice, it can just be hard for me to tell the difference between experienced reassurance and fresh-faced optimism.

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        20 days ago

        I came out over two years ago and started HRT a year and a half ago. While I still lack a sense of fashion and am kinda depressed because of the state of the world, I have a passing voice and appearance for the most part (clothing is my big shortfall).