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I don’t know what part of my boundary was equivocal.

Really, all I see it as is that they are invalidating queerness so much that they think a boundary based on queerness is totally valid for them to ignore.

I don’t even know what to do.

cw: sa/mental health

they have a r*pist mentality, and honestly, the helplessness I feel comes so close that being in this situation reminds me of how distressed I felt during my SA. It honestly led me to tears right now. I hate how trauma from that literally had to be reignited just because my grandparents can’t respect boundaries.

Oddly enough, they tried to use one of my uncles as a proxy a few days ago. They did this to ask me if I want Christmas lunch with them. I told them “No,” but they still came. This is undoubtedly a r*pist mentality.

  • booty [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    5 days ago

    With people like this you really cannot do anything but go fully nuclear on them. Any time you are unwillingly forced into indirect contact with them (like through proxies or whatever) you should make it certain that if you see these people you will immediately call the police. Then if you ever see these people, immediately call the police. Tell them you’re being stalked, that you have no interest in any interaction with the individuals who are currently insisting on making contact with you, and that you have made that fact clear.

    Of course the police won’t give a fuck but they might get the message at that point. And if they don’t, then a long enough paper trail may eventually get the system to make them leave you the fuck alone by force.