It’s not like Male pattern baldness or anything but when I was on Chemo for breast cancer I lost all my hair. It was heartbreaking for me and every day I avoid looking in the mirror because it makes me so sad and sick I almost throw up. I tried wearing a wig but it doesn’t look convincing to me even if it does for other people. Also the feeling of the wig on my scalp makes my body feel gross and just reminds me of what I don’t have anymore.
I know my hair will likely grow back but that’s months from now and I need strategies on how to cope until then. Has anyone else been in this situation? How do you cope with something like this? It’s just so hard.
Also this is my first post on Lemmy since I found my phone which was lost for months.
Hey. It’s really shitty that on top of fighting for your life, you gotta deal with dysphoria, too. It’s not fair, and I’m so sorry.
I wore a lot of cute fem knit hats when I went through chemo, and that helped. I also leaned into clothes that emphasized my beautiful new-to-me fem figure, so if someone was going to misgender me it would have to be on purpose because they were an asshole and I didn’t care what they thought.
Surprisingly, my loving spouse taking lots of pictures helped a lot, then, and later. I was surprised by how fem I looked even when all I could think about was my big lumpy dome and face elbow that other people called a nose (it’s smaller than my dad’s cis wife’s, but try telling my brain that).
Hopefully this helps. You are beautiful.
Fuck cancer. Send cancer into the fucking sun. I believe in you.
Ps: there are LGBTQIA cancer support groups out ther, and they can really help. Here’s one such org.
https://www.cancer-network.org/