You keep going on and on aggrandizing your own very limited experience. “When I was young… when I was poor… when I was in college… after I wasn’t poor”. Do you hear yourself?
This might come as a shock, but not every low income person has the same opportunities you did or the same resources. Just because you found a path out doesn’t give you license to oversimplify the many situational nuances that come with being poor, nor did it give you some special knowledge to lead you to think you’ve somehow solved poverty.
I’m glad you’ve bettered your financial circumstances, but you seem to have lost something else important along the way.
I grew up in a poor community and watched lots of people throw their lives away. They had just as much opportunity as I did, oftentimes, they had more than I did.
Being poor sucks, but nobody is coming to save poor people. They have to save themselves. That’s how it’s always been and how it will always be. Thinking that someday someone will come lift you out of poverty is the most surefire way to stay in it forever.
Call it self-aggrandizing if you want, but the reality of the world is harsh. And yeah it sucks, because the funny thing about working your way out of being poor is that poor people hate and resent you for it and start blaming you for their problems and demanding that you owe. I remember when I got my first job out of college and my old high school friends working minimum wage jobs at home started asking me for money and calling me a selfish greedy asshole for not giving it to them… the same one who dropped out of college because it was ‘too hard’.
jerking yourself off on the internet about how you feel for people isn’t empathy. it’s emotional masturbation. it’s the equivalent of watching a porn clip online and thinking you’re a sex expert now.
empathy is when you try to understand other people’s experiences and relate to them. not just feel bad about them and pat yourself on the back for being a ‘good person’ because you met your quota of feeling bad for other people today, unlike all those horrible other ‘bad people’ who don’t sit around feeling bad.
the ironic is your feelings being felt does nothing to help anyone, not even yourself. it’s actions that matter. I took action and improved my life and continue to do so every year of my life and refuse to let setbacks and misfortunes define me or prevent me from acheving things. Many people however, sadly, do not do that. They sit around their entire lives and complain about how hard they have it and how unfair life is and how if only someone would help them everything would get miraculously better.
Ironically this attitude isn’t confined to the poor at all. Many rich people I have known are just as guilty of their self-imposed misery and poverty. The issue is their inability to be responsible for themselves.
Not everyone is wired the same way as you, life is complex and different for everyone. Society doesn’t have enough room for everyone to make it out of poverty. You got yourself in some ivory tower that’s for sure, you’re nothing special dude, none of us are. I imagine you hate the shit out of yourself as much as everyone else around you does with the way you speak to people and try to project yourself as some kind of pillar of society. Nobody gives a shit about your stove pipe view of the world with single digit data points that you use as justification to bring up all the ways you are better than everyone else. Gtfoh
You keep going on and on aggrandizing your own very limited experience. “When I was young… when I was poor… when I was in college… after I wasn’t poor”. Do you hear yourself?
This might come as a shock, but not every low income person has the same opportunities you did or the same resources. Just because you found a path out doesn’t give you license to oversimplify the many situational nuances that come with being poor, nor did it give you some special knowledge to lead you to think you’ve somehow solved poverty.
I’m glad you’ve bettered your financial circumstances, but you seem to have lost something else important along the way.
I grew up in a poor community and watched lots of people throw their lives away. They had just as much opportunity as I did, oftentimes, they had more than I did.
Being poor sucks, but nobody is coming to save poor people. They have to save themselves. That’s how it’s always been and how it will always be. Thinking that someday someone will come lift you out of poverty is the most surefire way to stay in it forever.
Call it self-aggrandizing if you want, but the reality of the world is harsh. And yeah it sucks, because the funny thing about working your way out of being poor is that poor people hate and resent you for it and start blaming you for their problems and demanding that you owe. I remember when I got my first job out of college and my old high school friends working minimum wage jobs at home started asking me for money and calling me a selfish greedy asshole for not giving it to them… the same one who dropped out of college because it was ‘too hard’.
They might just hate self righteous dickheads with no empathy. From the context I have it’s impossible to tell.
jerking yourself off on the internet about how you feel for people isn’t empathy. it’s emotional masturbation. it’s the equivalent of watching a porn clip online and thinking you’re a sex expert now.
empathy is when you try to understand other people’s experiences and relate to them. not just feel bad about them and pat yourself on the back for being a ‘good person’ because you met your quota of feeling bad for other people today, unlike all those horrible other ‘bad people’ who don’t sit around feeling bad.
the ironic is your feelings being felt does nothing to help anyone, not even yourself. it’s actions that matter. I took action and improved my life and continue to do so every year of my life and refuse to let setbacks and misfortunes define me or prevent me from acheving things. Many people however, sadly, do not do that. They sit around their entire lives and complain about how hard they have it and how unfair life is and how if only someone would help them everything would get miraculously better.
Ironically this attitude isn’t confined to the poor at all. Many rich people I have known are just as guilty of their self-imposed misery and poverty. The issue is their inability to be responsible for themselves.
Not everyone is wired the same way as you, life is complex and different for everyone. Society doesn’t have enough room for everyone to make it out of poverty. You got yourself in some ivory tower that’s for sure, you’re nothing special dude, none of us are. I imagine you hate the shit out of yourself as much as everyone else around you does with the way you speak to people and try to project yourself as some kind of pillar of society. Nobody gives a shit about your stove pipe view of the world with single digit data points that you use as justification to bring up all the ways you are better than everyone else. Gtfoh