A lot of people don’t believe in a relationship that isn’t a power struggle. They don’t believe in relationships that are cooperative. Many people are seeking relationships where they dominate or are dominated.

I date. I meet plenty of women who tell me on the first date that I must give up something to prove to them my worth or dedication to them. Because the point of the relationship to her is for men to suffer for her sake, and anything the man pursues for his own personal happiness is a her losing out on what should be given to her.

This might include hobbies, friends, possessions, lifestyle choices, and pets.

I also meet women occasionally who basically want me to tell them how to dress, what to think, what friends to have, etc. Which is kind of the flipside.