Still better than whatever the hell 4tran is.
I was going to moan about !transmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone focusing too much on the catgirl/doggirl/energy drink/thigh highs stereotypes, but it’s actually pretty good right now
How people see me: a weird nerd
What I really am: well, I just wish people called me a weird nerd girl, sometimes, because that’s what I am
Approximately how I feel as a cis bi (trans inclusive) dude in trans fem spaces:

(Apparently credit to Susan Sanford on redbubble, didn’t even know that was a website)
((Also that’s a crook, not a scythe))
Pretty sure red bubble just steals 90% of their art with bots to resell with out permission. Another 5% is people stealing art and reselling it on red bubble. There is a 5% rounding error
Look at me guys I’m the grungler
I feel a little like David Attenborough: a fascinated outsider.
I would say basically the same, though also sometimes its closer to befuddled, but also sometimes amused.
I landed on this piece of art because I think the cubist style applied most prominently to the primary figure conveys that… the face is abstract, and basically at least myself as the viewer can see multiple different expressions basically depending on how you squint.
The crook, the implement of imposition of order… its there. But it isn’t actually being employed. Is it needed? … maybe?
But the cats are all just there, being fine, doin’ their thing. And they’re less ‘odd’ looking, less heavily stylized. The main figure is the stand out, the odd one.
The juxtaposition is thus somewhat absurd, but not overwhelmingly so. Everyone is ultimately just lollygagging, standing around.
If I could actually tweak the image, I’d want to make the primary figure less primary, less large. I’d found another image that was… apparently just a real picture of a pretty average dude just sitting down, calm, looking contemplatively off into the distance, in a field of many other real cats, similarly all just doing their thing, less prominent size difference.
But this image is basically funnier, lol.
Err, excuse me, not lol, :3
The picture a reference to the idiom “herding cats” (which is why the guy is holding a shepherd’s crook), not just a guy standing around in the presence of a bunch of cats. I assume you just didn’t realize that, and weren’t trying to convey a futile attempt to control the trans people.
The way I see it is basically -> I thought I might need the crook, but it appears I don’t, and thus I’m the idiot standing around with a crook for no reason.
So thus it conveys yes, a bit of my own latent foolishness, but it also displays that that is foolishness.
If you don’t want headpats I can offer a cookie recipe, or a recipe for a cream-cashew sauce for pasta
Due to popular demand (2 people in comments) here is the recipe for the cream cashew sauce for pasta. As a proud European I use the metric system and refuse to use
uncivilizedimperial units, as such please use Civilanator 3000. Also I used grams for solids and mililiters for liquids, although I doubt it will come into play my professional deformation demands me to note that the volume of liquids change with temperature, yet under livable circumstances it should remain unnoticeable.Recipe
History of my life and unnecessary infotm
Equipment
In general you need one pan in which the sauce can be at a low height, I used 19cm in diameter, lower or more space could result in more headache, adjust according to your skill.
For 2-3 people (depending on how good you can digest fatty things):
- 180±5 g Cashew nuts, not roasted, not salted 1
- 250 ml of cream (36%)
- 25 ml of milk (COW normal fat, non cow milk = unknown results)
- 80 ml of white cooking wine (alcohol is cooked off)
- 200 g spaghetti
- 1,5 g salt 2
- 0,5 g Pepper all colour 2
- 0,5 g Pepper red 2
- 0,5 g Pepper Citron 2
- 0,5 g orange pepper 2
- 2 pinches of smoked salt 2
1 Substitution for roasted although possible is not advised, substitution for salted is possible, but salt amount must be adjusted and tasted
2 if something of this is not available I recommend not substituting it, but rather just forgetting it
What to do
roast the nuts on a pan, to your licking, but try to do it fast to keep as much inner juice in them as possible I like it like this

- take the nuts out and with the cream and milk blend them, I use a staff-blender but any should be fine, just make sure to get everything.
- Blend into a paste, if you want a few chunks inside, separate a few nuts before hand and add afterwards
- the consistency I got:

after that hell starts- It needs to be stirred all the time, else it begins to burn and we don’t want that!
- While stirring add all the spices
- Then add 40 ml of white wine, it will buy you time (stir before leaving it alone, so it is as liquidi as possible)
- Start cooking your noodles (Preferably have a pot with salted water on the stove by then)
- cook them and stir the sauce all the time, it will be the consistency of a thick paste when the wine gets cooked out and absorbed, its normal 3
- when the noodles are done add an other 40 ml wine to the sauce it will buy you time to get them out
- do NOT scare the noodles (i.e. stop the cooking process with cold water)
- add the noodles to the sauce, preferable why a little of the wine is still there (less viscosity = easier mixing)
- stir and coat it until the wine is cooked away
DONE!
3 To avoid burning you can also jiggidy the pan, the vibration will help. My SO says that moving the pan with the speed of “someone who watched to much porn and tries to finger someone” works the best
My SO suggest eating it with some white muscat wine, but I can neither confirm nor deny that it will work with it. I personally like it with homemade lemonade, but it should be noted that I get nauseous with fatty things, so I have to get my acidity up anytime I eat it.
P.S.: If you have any question to the process or spice substitution, I cooked this quite a lot and should be able to infer the results
please drop that sauce recipe that sounds delightful
Posted it! hope you like it
Give show offer I want
yes plz i wld like pasta recipes
Posted it! hope you like it
i functionally look the same as i did 10 years ago when i started hrt and its actually okay because i feel heaps better, i just rarely look in the mirror
Fortran is a programming language from 50s.
And still widely used by mathematicians
Somebody has to provide the headpats
Same except everybody thinks I’m a butch when I’m really more of a twink.
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Can I pls have headpats 🥺
Headpats are as important as hugs.😤
🫂🤗(っ´ω`)ノ(˵•́ ᴗ •̀˵)im not sure i really understand. say more words?
The vast majority of trans online spaces are dominated by cat/dog/whatever girls. It feels almost cult like. If you’re not into the whole pet play & “skirt go spinny” schtick it’s downright alienating. While it’s annoying to me as someone who’s butch, it’s very dysphoric for trans mascs.
The whole cat/dog girl thing is also just generally concerning and tends to create extremely unsafe spaces and has lots of unhealthy fetishism.
Its just a general problem. It can be fine, but it just rarely is. It reminds me of early bdsm forums full of inexperienced people. Who haven’t learned proper etiquette or care yet.
Thank you for sharing something I’ve never considered.
thank you for the explanation, I didn’t find it obvious by looking at the image alone. I love how you’re helping to increase the visibility of those parts of transfems, keep going!
You feel like you’re about to plow your way unrelentingly through a roomful of eager cuties?
Cause that’s what happens…
sigh yes very much so… feel samsies… triple sigh
I feel like a hairy ogre right now. And that’s after shaving everything I can.
I’m not going to comment on how I feel about my (lack of) feminine appearance…
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