Probably just data mining

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    Having a preference and whining are not the same thing.

    Things that are fine to say in relevant social contexts:

    • You look really cute without makeup.
    • I prefer lighter makeup.
    • I love heavy makeup looks.
    • I have sensory issues and can’t stand the smell of makeup at all.

    Things that are creepy to say in any context:

    • Women use makeup as a lie to trick men.
    • I want a traditional woman who doesn’t paint her face like a clown.
    • I don’t know how she expects to attract a man when she’s not even putting in any effort to do basic makeup.
    • I bet she’s really ugly without all that makeup.
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        I think if you can’t tell the two categories apart you should talk about it with a healthcare professional. I don’t know what it’s called in English, but there exists a type of therapy focused on teaching and developing skills that could be helpful.

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          Healthcare professionals don’t generally judge people to be whining. They try to listen and understand them. Which is hard to do if you dismiss people as whining because you lack the emotional intelligence to hear their grievances.

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      Personally I find all make be it on a woman or man. To be the single ugliest thing a person can do to them self. Its vile and revolting. It looks highly unnatural, and actively causes me stress some times and I have no idea why. It triggers my flight or fight response when someone has too much on and I can’t accurately make out their features.

      Perfume and Cologne is the same way. In my 30 years of life iv never found a single perfume or cologne be it on a man or woman. That did not actively make me gag and make my eyes water. I can frequently taste it on the air long long after many people can’t. Which I assume is part of the problem. I’m just hyper sensitive to almost all fragrances.

      90% of laundry detergent, soaps, and basically anything with a scent does exactly the same thing to me.

      Iv been yelled at for involuntarily gaging when women walk by me because I can so strongly taste their perfume.

      If I could I would out right ban all make up and scents. They are terrible things and from the outside looking in. They seem to do nothing but perpetuate a endless cycle of social abuse. People get judged for using them. For not using them. For using too much, or not enough.

      So far as I can tell there’s not a single good thing socially that has come from the invention of non medical cosmetics.

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        This is valid:

        It triggers my flight or fight response when someone has too much on and I can’t accurately make out their features.

        This is needlessly insulting:

        the single ugliest thing a person can do to them self. Its vile and revolting.

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        What stray said but also omg, please write more clearly. Write full sentences and don’t put random sentence breaks in places they don’t belong. I assume this is a second language issue and I apologize but it needs grammar work and as long as you’re being rude you can at least be easy to read.