• CordialCephalopod@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Not every kind gesture is flirting, my fellow cephalopod. Sometimes people do nice things to be nice. Telling someone that you hope their day goes well/improves is kind but it can feel insincere when it’s stranger to stranger. Something small like a favorite candy bar is a more intentional way to do something nice

    • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 day ago

      Yeah but as someone who worked retail with women in the past, they constantly have to deal with creepy men hitting on them. So I don’t really blame them if they take it that way.

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      2 days ago

      Yes, I do genuinely agree with you that, especially in the context of this post, most nice gestures like this aren’t flirtatious at all. I’m simply trying to point out that there are people who work front line jobs and who have bad days that aren’t perfectly attuned to social cues and gestures out in public and interpret social situations in diverse ways.

      I just think that the risk of coming off as insincere if you say something nice is way lower than the risk of coming off as a creep and making someones bad day feel worse.