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i kind of want a new name but its so hard to pick one. what name do i look like i would have?

  • AmyCatbunny@lemmy.zipEnglish
    1·
    4 days ago

    The first name dangling through my brain when I saw the pocs was Sudan. I don’t know, why, but I think it is quite fitting 😊

    • me_jumper@infosec.pubEnglish
      4·
      10 days ago

      I thought Anna, but I think that is not too common in the US. So I think I’m agreeing with this the most 😊

      (Just noticed: maybe they are not in the US as well. Even I as a German think US centric online, weird.)

  • 𝕱𝖎𝖗𝖊𝖜𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍@lemmy.worldEnglish
    25·
    10 days ago

    I’m not going to suggest a name because they’re deeply personal and I don’t know anything about you, but I will share a story instead.

    I compare it to stargazing. Picture yourself laying on a hill on a calm night looking up at the night sky. The first thing you see is a scattering of stars, far too many to count. As you look around, you even start to notice the far away ones. But then you realize that they all shine differently. After a few minutes you start to pick out the brightest ones, about a dozen or so. Your eyes dart back and forth between them trying to connect them mentally. After doing this for a bit, you notice yourself bouncing back to the same 3 or 4 stars that seem to shine the brightest. You keep looking around trying to give each star a fair shot, but your eyes somehow always wander back to those brightest stars. Eventually, given enough time, you’ll notice something peculiar about one in particular. Maybe it’s the brightest, or the largest, or it has a slight tint that sets it apart. That is your star.

    The stars represent countless possibilities, and the brightest one is your name. It takes time, don’t rush it.

    • Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      11·
      10 days ago

      Sophie’s pretty good, I don’t really like eigh names and i feel like im the wrong generation for amanda. I’ll definitely add sophie to my list though

  • Lehmuusa@nord.pubEnglish
    10·
    10 days ago

    I wonder if this is of any help… But sometime parents have names planned before the child is born, and they might have had thought of two. Have you asked them if you had a female name before your birth?

    In any case… Damn, you’ve got style! And sorry I cannot be useful with directly suggesting names. My mother tongue is not English, so all names I’d intuitively come up with would be all weird for an English-speaker.

    • Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      25·
      10 days ago

      I wanted to do that, but when I tried to come out to my parents my mom started saying like “well my identity is having a son!!” so now im just pretending to not be trans around them

      • HumanOnEarth@lemmy.caEnglish
        16·
        10 days ago

        Wow.

        Well as a dad, I hereby officially declare you as fine just the way you are.

        It’s ok to struggle as a parent with your kid’s sexuality/identity if you don’t fully understand things. It’s NOT ok to make it about yourself and stand in between your child and happiness.

        Tell your mom an internet stranger said “shame on you” and bonus points if you throw a handful of glitter in the air as you walk away.

        Edit: Taylor?

        • grue@lemmy.worldEnglish
          2·
          10 days ago

          But @thisisbutaname, if you give up your name you’ll have nothing left!

      • Lehmuusa@nord.pubEnglish
        2·
        10 days ago

        …huh!

        That is awful! You’re seriously unlucky with your parents. But you’ve got so much strength in you to be able to ask these questions. And to answer to my comment.

        Admirable!

      • db_null@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        2·
        10 days ago

        Uff, sorry to hear that. Hope they will come around and educate themself a bit about you. Best of luck, Emma (?)

  • Daisy (she/her)@lemmy.mlEnglish
    6·
    9 days ago

    I’m picking up Amy vibes from you. No matter what you pick though, there is no wrong name. I deliberated on mine for years, but in retrospect I was just stalling. Congratulations on finding the courage to come out, and sorry to hear your family not taking it well. I’m all too familiar with that sting of betrayal myself. If you ever need to talk or vent, we are all here for you!

  • Tanis Nikana@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    10 days ago

    I see a camera! Tell me more! Show your work! You have the attention of a lifelong devoted photographer.

    Also, I’m Tanis, pronounced TAH-niss, and there needs to be more of me with that name in the world!