It’s true, he said in an interview that Deltarune is a secret gay laser that turns anything you point it at gay.

I accidentally pointed at my aquarium and now all my fish are smooching gayly.

  • Axolotl@feddit.itEnglish
    3·
    22 days ago

    What other term do you suggest to use instead of femboy that is as short and clear?

    This comment reads like someone is just trying to find the culprit to an issue, it just sounds like that IMO, i hope it’s not what you are aiming for and that i missinterpeted…

    Anyway, i am more happy to drop the femboy label but i think we should first find an alternative that cannot be weaponized tho

      • Axolotl@feddit.itEnglish
        5·
        22 days ago

        Call trans women trans women

        Ok, that’s what i already do, but if you don’t like me using “Femboy” on ma self and other boys that like to wear femme clothing and act a little more femme, what i should use duh?

          • Axolotl@feddit.itEnglish
            5·
            22 days ago

            Can you suggest anything? All of i can think of can be weaponized in a way or another

            • SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
              6·
              22 days ago

              Yeah, i get it. Even if we’d workshop something that sounds innocuous now, if you have a label for a community of people who are femme presenting but are actually in some cases cis men, it will at some point be weaponized against trans women and other transfeminine people to deny our transness. That’s kind of inescapable in a structurally transmisogynist society.

              Obviously that shouldn’t stop gender nonconforming men from experimenting and from presenting in the way you like, i’m fully on board with people doing that. In fact, it’s also extremely important for unouted trans women that such communities exist. I have several transfem friends who used to identity as femboy or crossdresser before they had figured themselves out. And it was absolutely necessary for them to have a space where they could safely try looking like a girl without already committing to trans womanhood. I’m not saying anything against that.

              But it doesn’t change the fact that the femboy label is pivotal for men outside of that community in telling trans women that one of us is, in fact, just a man who likes makeup. That isn’t the fault of femboys, it’s the fault of transphobes. I get that. I’m not blaming you for transphobia and trans erasure. I’m just saying, at least be mindful of in which contexts you use that label and who may appropriate it and who you may need to defend when you see it’s weaponized.