Pretty sure boy-moding at work to make life simpler is common and not just among NBs. The reality is everyone lives and works in the world as it currently is and chooses their battles.

In my case it’s more like Bowie mode. That level of fluidity seems to code for most outside the queer community as clearly “alt” but nondescript while still queer-coded to queer colleagues. It’s a nice balance because the only “commentary” I get really is from other women or NBs, like pre-meeting compliment swapping before we code switch. And since I don’t care about my own pronouns my answer to the question is either “dealers choice just be consistent” or “they” (the professional default in the US anyway).

E: That said, I’d drop Bowie mode and dial it up in a heartbeat if a new coworker seemed unconfident in their gender. All I needed was the excuse 💅

This meme cracked my egg like two years ago.

I’m definitely non-binary, but I don’t have the wherewithal to correct people irl, and that goes double for the workplace. I’d rather talk about anything else in the whole with those people, ugh. (On Lemmy though I lean towards masculine pronouns, mostly as a defense mechanism. I’m used to being seen as leaning feminine in the real world, but coming across that way on the internet scares the shit out of me.)

My pronoun is they/them because it’s between I don’t really care about my gender and I’m busy with something else, and to be vague (being less specific to be identified), as in, gender is IMO irrelevant in most situation, like it doesn’t affect my working performance or conversation.