• Battle Masker@lemmy.world
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    women? having SEXUAL URGES? AUGH!! (clutches pearls so hard they turn to diamonds) /s

    yeah for some reason, women liking sexual stuff is frowned upon in society while men are encouraged to like it

      • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        Yes, but they do so through the male gaze.

        Most porn made for men is really unappealing to women. It’s degrading, the men tend to be unappealing, it’s not intimate, and it’s not realistic. In short, it’s not experiences we would want to have, so it’s not arousing.

        Porn made for women by women is actually a decent seller with women, much like erotic fiction (and importantly, men like it also), but it’s still a pretty niche market because the assumption is women don’t want it.

        It’s sort of a self-perpetuating issue.

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          If there was a market for it, it would be made and sold. There isn’t. Same reason there aren’t more prostitutes serving women, more male strippers, or gay bath houses focused on women.

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            It is made and sold though?

            https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a43169/the-best-porn-sites-for-women/

            There are a number of women-led porn studios and sites, and the number is growing, not shrinking. The first studio was started less than 20 years ago, if memory serves, so it’s not like it’s had a wildly long time to overtake the booming market.

            The difference between those other things you mentioned and woman-directed porn is that men also consume the porn quite readily, because it’s still porn they would want to watch.

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          The market for erotic fiction is huge (think romance novels) and is primarily aimed at and consumed by women. I’ve always thought (and I think there are some studies to back it up) that women and men process sexual desire differently - visually for men vs cerebrally for women. Although I do think that as pornography has become more socially acceptable those differences may be less pronounced.

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            Harlequin is big business and a casual overview of their covers and synopsises tell you quite a bit what they are selling and to who they market