my recent ex would just yell at me from 3 rooms away. I’d be forced to yell back “what??” and then half the time she wouldn’t say anything. So I’d get up and walk over there and ask “what??”. “oh, nothing, I wanted you to see this thing on TV”. I’d ask that she could please walk over and talk to me directly so I didn’t have to yell or get up and it would never happen.
“Come here if you want something!” and then remain silent until they come. I love my gf but I’m done having a conversation yelling across the whole apartment.
After asking for months or years for her to stop making me raise my voice and yell back, I started responding in a shitty tone like “WHAT?? WTF DO YOU WANT” which is a negative thing to have to do. But that had no effect either, other than perhaps a negative one on me psychologically.
Not saying this is a cool thing to do or a conscious decision, it was just driving me really fucking insane to ask her to stop 5 times a day for over a year and she kept doing it. So she’s either totally oblivious, didn’t give a fuck that it was frustrating me, or it was intentional.
I always try to explain to people why I don’t like when they just call my name across a house.
If you would like something, come ask me, or shoot me a message if it’s not super important.
I’m not a dog. I’m not a servant. You will not summon me like one. You will not snap your fingers or whistle to get my attention. If you do, you get ignored.
That’s actually what i told my GF. I tried to get her to start calling me on the phone or facetime, which is ridiculous, but I mean she could just walk over and talk to me in person too…
One of my co-workers does this from her office. I pretend I have really bad hearing and don’t ever respond, but she persists.
Thankfully, my husband and I are pretty good about actually approaching each other. If I ever heard my husband call me from another room, I’d know it’s an emergency.
my recent ex would just yell at me from 3 rooms away. I’d be forced to yell back “what??” and then half the time she wouldn’t say anything. So I’d get up and walk over there and ask “what??”. “oh, nothing, I wanted you to see this thing on TV”. I’d ask that she could please walk over and talk to me directly so I didn’t have to yell or get up and it would never happen.
“Come here if you want something!” and then remain silent until they come. I love my gf but I’m done having a conversation yelling across the whole apartment.
After asking for months or years for her to stop making me raise my voice and yell back, I started responding in a shitty tone like “WHAT?? WTF DO YOU WANT” which is a negative thing to have to do. But that had no effect either, other than perhaps a negative one on me psychologically.
Not saying this is a cool thing to do or a conscious decision, it was just driving me really fucking insane to ask her to stop 5 times a day for over a year and she kept doing it. So she’s either totally oblivious, didn’t give a fuck that it was frustrating me, or it was intentional.
My daughter recently told us to stop yelling for her when we wanted something from her and to text her instead.
Daughter is based 👌
Personally, we use Alexa announcements in our house. So much easier.
I love this. At some point, getting called like a dog really started bothering me.
THIS!
I always try to explain to people why I don’t like when they just call my name across a house.
If you would like something, come ask me, or shoot me a message if it’s not super important.
I’m not a dog. I’m not a servant. You will not summon me like one. You will not snap your fingers or whistle to get my attention. If you do, you get ignored.
My parents installed an intercom for that reason, but we lived in a pretty big house. This one isn’t that big. It’s not a huge deal though.
That’s actually what i told my GF. I tried to get her to start calling me on the phone or facetime, which is ridiculous, but I mean she could just walk over and talk to me in person too…
One of my co-workers does this from her office. I pretend I have really bad hearing and don’t ever respond, but she persists.
Thankfully, my husband and I are pretty good about actually approaching each other. If I ever heard my husband call me from another room, I’d know it’s an emergency.
If I acted like I couldn’t hear, she’d just repeat it louder and louder.
I get that sometimes, but I always win the war of attrition