• Leela [it/its] @lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    If, in fact, that one single article is about you, you admit to being a narcissist

    okay, the fact you need to point that out is absolutely ridiculous. what’s wrong with being narcissistic? nobody chooses to be one.

    Please refrain from speaking so harshly about a beloved community member

    if your “beloved community member” is pretty much willing to deny the lived experiences and interpretation of an intersex person, someone whose experiences and identity are still widely discriminated against and quite literally forcibly put surgeries upon from a young age for them to fit within the binary sex/gender bullshit that’s forced upon all of us, then maybe your community should rethink its standards and its views on intersex people.

    I don’t want to play psychologist, especially because I’m not qualified, but

    the typical “I don’t want to do something that’s clearly wrong and bigoted, but” response. if someone were to say “I don’t want to be racist, especially since I attended a BLM protest, but [spews out racist stuff]”, you’d understand that is wrong. So why not understand that when you’re armchair diagnosing someone, you could be ableist towards them?

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        1 year ago

        I’m mention the narcissism because it’s relevant to the topic of you playing victim and harassing a gay man for days, maybe weeks, maybe months, because of a difference of opinion.

        I sure love someone playing the victim here. Also “difference of opinion”? I love how you’re repeating fascist talking points here.

        You are continuing to edit wiki articles, make alt accounts, and make targeted harassing statements

        let’s address these points one by one. you first say that person edits Wiki articles. as if… that’s a problem? they’re that gender, they have the sources and information to gather for their own gender, and we all know gender is a far more complex and subjective concept than, say, atoms or molecules. those ones are pretty objective and verifiable, but gender isn’t, because gender is a part of the self, a part of the whole experience, which does include sexuality and the alike.

        Psychology is not bigoted. It is a science. I enjoy researching it as a hobby, but am not an expert.

        every science can hold bigoted beliefs that are then rationalized and justified as science. did you not learn about “race science” or about the Nazis? they used “science” to justify their beliefs that Black or Jewish people should be wiped off the Earth. you’re also using “science” to justify bigotry against narcissistic people.

        You have still yet to show me any shred of evidence of him saying what you claim he said.

        this is how I’m going to prove it to you that your claims of me being an alt — which shows a lot about you and not me — by saying this: I don’t know what he actually said, but I know what you and what DroneRights said. and I have engaged with the subject of queer theory and queerness in general for a number of years on many other social medias before joining this one today. this is my first ever exposure to this topic and I genuinely do not know what he said, but I can tell that its arguments are far more convincing and elaborate than yours, and that your arguments are pretty much internet fascist rhetoric for the most part.

          • Leela [it/its] @lemm.ee
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            1 year ago

            yes, I am doing a lot of ranting. I fucking am. because I care about queer people and it seems like all you do is weaponize your identity to justify your bigotry. also, for someone who fancies themselves to be a psychologist, I don’t think you truly understand the way slight subtleties can be the telltale difference between a person or another.

            for instance, I will share with you a memory about an intersex person we met, one of the first ones we met online. it was about the pandemic era. we were exploiring our identity and figured out we were a demiboy (already proof that we are not DroneRights’ alt, because it never said anything about being a demiboy from what I’m aware) and possibly lesbian, and we were on this server called Neuroqueer. there was a trans man called Asher on there. he was a kind, sweet and caring person who was very silly and very cheerful. he told us at some point he is also intersex and would talk about the intersection between his intersexuality and his transness. DroneRights is not the first nor the last intersex person we will have encountered online, but we took the time to understand intersex people, to understand queerness fully and completely, and to make sure that, every time someone who is intersex is harassed and targeted, or appears to be targeted, for us to be good allies and stand up to them. maybe this will come as a shocker to you, but I don’t think an alt would just say this out of the blue: we are not intersex. but we need to stand up for intersex people anyway. to insinuate that I am simply an alt is simply based on your previous assumptions and on whatever happened within your community, which I don’t know. I do not know anything about your community, but I can tell based on what I’ve read so far that your community sucks and that someone needs to say the quiet part aloud.

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                1 year ago

                well, today you’ll learn that there’s more than a person with DID on the planet other than DroneRights. we do have DID, indeed, that’d be the correct answer to your question. but I think you’d rather argue that I used collective pronouns to describe my system’s existence than to actually face the music and read anything I’ve been trying to explain and/or take a pause and think about the fact that other perspectives than yours exist and maybe you’re not being “attacked” for an opinion, but simply rightfully criticized.

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                    1 year ago

                    As I have said earlier, the way you are reacting to this thing reeks of the way right wingers react when their viewpoints are pushed back against. “I was just trying to have a conversation” I don’t think denying someone’s interpretation of a fictional character and their close interpretation of it, or denying their identity is a good discussion topic. I don’t think bigotry has the right to be treated as a “civil and honest” conversation, because its premise is based on hatred and disrespect.

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                    1 year ago

                    I think it’s really gross how you call having a connection to one of the only characters with a similar gender to one is unhealthy. There are so few examples, and so many fewer good ones.