• CobblerScholar@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Confidence in yourself takes work. Confident people are confident because they loved themselves first and you take care of those you love

    • Something Burger 🍔@jlai.lu
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      10 months ago

      Confident people are confident because they are handsome, therefore their advances work more often than not, leading to more confidence.

      Confidence is not what makes someone attractive, it’s the other way around.

      • R0cket_M00se@lemmy.world
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        10 months ago

        True confidence is the assurance that who you are is good enough, not that you’re perfect and need no improvement, but that if you’re doing your best to respect other people that you deserve the same.

        If your “confidence” changes based on how others treat you, then it’s not truly self-esteem but rather pride and ego.

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      10 months ago

      nah you start by faking it and being ironically confident until you trick yourself and it becomes second nature. replace self deprecating humor with god complex humor until you believeeeee

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        10 months ago

        Because it’s effort and not everybody is up to doing that work for one reason or another. We all have self doubt and it takes a lot to push past that sometimes

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      10 months ago

      Sure real confidence does, but fake confidence is a good step on that path, and is better than none at all