Try peanuts, they really like peanuts.

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Shameful addiction is a phrase that perks my Lil ears up hahaha

Ok professor 🤭

I feel very…educated

Oh yes, you are lovely ❤️

Oh my, this is a public forum and I am on main 👀

I know plenty of people like that, and I don’t think that’s wrong, that’s probably how we should think about that stuff lol. It should be difficult to be or pretend to be cruel to a person.

Tbh I may be a bit fucked up, but it’s in a fun way, at least, lol. Results in some wires crossed and makes me want that kind of treatment, but in a context where the type and amount of treatment I receive is in my control, as a sub.

So, the biiig reason I am capable of cruelty when in a dom position is that I understand how it feels as a sub to want to be on the receiving end of it, and how much it can actually help in a therapeutic sense when the proper before and after care is taken. So I guess what im saying is I can tell how much they want it, I can tell how much they enjoy it, and I would never dream of treating a person like that if they didn’t actively want it. Like I said in another comment, I enjoy when my partner is enjoying themself.

Edit: Oh! I also wanted to add, gender power dynamics also play a huge role when dominating men, and a LOT of men like being degraded by women because it’s a response to a society that constantly teaches them to treat women like objects, yknow?

That makes total sense! To be fair I’d only do degradation with the most trusted of partners because it needs to come from someone of whose opinion of me i am well aware. Most of the time I’m just a competitive brat hahaha

Really love a switchy physical power dynamic where power shifts between both partners.

The mind games and degradation are for a very specific type of itch, however (hint: it’s trauma).

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Haha oh no I am feeling particularly bratty 😅

I have lived no lesson so long as I can still breathe

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This makes total sense!

I met my husband on Tinder in 2014, 3 years before consolidation in 2017. When I was using it it was only a joint venture with Match Group

I also had some success before 2014 on okcupid (initially owned by IAC which used to contain Match Group and has since separated from match group but Match group kept OkCupid) and POF (sold in 2015 to Match Group)

Makes sense to me why I had a way different experience on dating websites back when I was single compared to my single friends now.

go and scream in the middle of a park

I see you use the bird method

It’s ok, that one got a chuckle outta me

Right?? It’s the bessst ugh. I’m a sucker for the “you’re a disgrace and I don’t know why I want you so badly” kind of trope haha, like someone is struggling to reconcile why they’re so attracted to such a loser 🤭

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I can be either, depending on what the sub wants tbh. I just get off on other people getting as much pleasure as they can have.

I love a good soft Dom myself but I can also be a pain slut depending on where I’m at in my cycle, so I understand the appeal of both. Hell I also love a good soft psychological dom that uses degradation to play mind games with me .

All I’m interested in when I dom is seeing somebody whimper and beg for me, by any means.

That makes sense, I’m a woman so most of the bottoming im familiar with is dom/sub, sorry! Hahaha

Bottoming doesn’t require anal, btw. There are many, many ways to be submissive.