NVE_Girl She/Her

I used to be all over social media since the Myspace days but it’s been exhausting over the last handful of years. I know I don’t use it as much anymore and neither do any of my friends. But like the article said a lot of us still watch video content.

Hello I’m new here! I’m an autistic trans woman, excited to be part of a kind community.

It’s been a tough week, news about trans people has been awful and my job wont let me update my ID photo on my badge. I started my transition 1.5 years ago and present femme now. They refuse because they say I look too different, and can’t wear any makeup or have long hair for the ID photo.

I’m escalating with HR but it was really demoralizing. Otherwise things have been okay! I get to visit the city and see some close friends this month so that will help recharge my batteries :)

“I’m trying to help.”

Cool, well after one of the hardest weeks of my life because of my identity, I really feel helped coming into a thread about TDoV and seeing 50% of the comments being dominated by a cis man talking down to trans people.

And I was even polite, offered a neutral explanation, and you still attacked me.

Seems like you have a real big chip on your shoulder about the trans community.

First day on beehaw as a trans woman. Sure do feel welcome here, thank you Powderhorn.

I didn’t say that.

That’s a false equivalent, Black History Month is a full month, TDoV is one day.

No one is suggesting a total ban on speech. We’re pointing out the difference between participating in a conversation and directing it. The goal of a day like TDoV is for trans people to be the subject of the conversation, rather than the audience for someone else’s memories.

I think there’s a misunderstanding about the intent here. Asking for space on TDoV isn’t meant as an attack, but as a boundary. Support shouldn’t be conditional on a community being perfectly polite while they’re asking to be heard. Telling a marginalized group they aren’t doing themselves any favors by setting boundaries on their own visibility day feels more like a lecture than allyship.