Hello!

I am new here, and new to the LGBT community in general. Around 6-7 weeks ago I realized I was trans(htf do you make it to 30 and not realize?)

In talking to my therapist, they said they(belonging to the community themselves) like to use queer as shorthand since it includes everyone and isn’t an unending acronym that is constantly getting new letters. I also like that and would use it, but being new, I’m not sure how others who’ve been here longer feel.

Are they equivalent?

I don’t like how the acronym keeps changing and accidentally leaving out a letter could be taken as an intentional slight.

  • Ada
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    141 year ago

    The way I use it is that Queer is an opt in label that in some way is embracing the idea of rejecting societal cishet norms.

    There are many LGBT folk that don’t identify with the word queer, and they are mostly folk who just want to blend in, live their life, and have people forget that they exist.

    People who self label as queer though tend to want society to change to better fit us, they tend to be more vocal and open about rejecting the bullshit that society puts on us.

    • Geez, I should’ve expected to see you here but I didn’t! I love how active you are!

      Definitely I want society to accept me for me, but/and I want to blend in.

      I want to be able to be me(whoever that is) and nobody to give a shit!

      Slightly off topic, but do you know of any other queer or queer friendly or themed comminuties or whatever? I’m obvious from the blåhaj, but o ly subscribe to like 5 other places. I definitely want to find more queer/lgbtq… + friendly spaces to hang!

      It’s been great! I have a few accounts across the fediverse, but have spent a lot of time in this zone lately.

      • Ada
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        51 year ago

        The whole instance basically exists because I wanted a way of accessing lemmy communities back when lemmy was barely a thing. I’ve been active for a while now, and it just so happens that 6000 of my closest friends have joined the instance since then :P

        As for other communities, the only other one I use is !transgender@lemmy.ml. There are more out there, lots of them memey, like egg_irl etc, but I’ve never really been part of those spaces.

    • Franzia
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      11 year ago

      Agreed. I identify with queer right now because I dress loudly and mix the gender of my clothing.