• @ChokingHazard63@sh.itjust.works
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    My oldest friend is gay. We met in kindergarten I think. I don’t remember meeting him, he’s just always been there. Cut to last year when my parents were saying they “don’t approve of that lifestyle” and I asked them “Well, what about [this friend]?” They know he’s gay, but since he doesn’t have an accent or a limp wrist they don’t seem to care. He lives down the street. We both went into the tech field. We hike. We’re each married to our own spouses. We have pets. I pointed all this out and told them “if you disapproved of his lifestyle, you’d also disapprove of mine. It’s not the LIFESTYLE, it’s the IDENTITY you don’t approve of.” I haven’t talked to my parents since. I’m ashamed to be related to them.

    • @Sharkwellington
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      It’s not the LIFESTYLE, it’s the IDENTITY you don’t approve of.

      Oh that’s insightful.

    • @afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world
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      307 months ago

      haven’t talked to my parents since. I’m ashamed to be related to them.

      Know that feeling. Welp if it is any help we can’t choose our family, we can choose our friends. If we both decide to start talking to them again maybe we can setup a racist playdate for our parents. You know bring them to the park, pack a lunch of bacon and cheap beer.

      • @theangryseal@lemmy.world
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        7 months ago

        One of the biggest idiots I ever met in my life said one of the smartest things I’ve ever heard in an argument with his sister.

        “I’m your fucking sister!!”

        He replied, “Yeah, well. I don’t like you! I didn’t choose you! The good lord put you assholes on me. I’ve chose all my friends and I choose to call them family. Y’all can get fucked!”

      • @sigmaklimgrindset@sopuli.xyz
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        217 months ago

        Why are two (presumed) heterosexual people thinking so much and so deeply about gay sex that they have fully formed opinions on it? Isn’t that a bit weird?

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              I literally have no idea how that could be construed as homophobia, and really don’t consider myself a victim.

              I mean the parents are definitely homophobic, that’s my point, they disapprove of gay sex. It’s certainly the lifestyle they disapprove of. They most likely prefer their homosexuals closeted and sublimated into the performing arts.

          • @sigmaklimgrindset@sopuli.xyz
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            37 months ago

            It’s hard to tell if a person is seriously expressing their opinion or doing a satirical bit on the internet nowadays. See: the creation of r/the_donald in 2015/16 vs …well…yeah.

        • @Grimy@lemmy.world
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          Tbh I think about hetero sex quite a lot so I’m not all that suprised. Closely related subjects if you get what I mean.