• Tyfud@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    It’s because she’s angry and upset and wants to hurt him back, and this is the way she can do that. She wants to let him know how much of a piece of shit he really is, in front of people, so he can’t hide from it anymore. It hurts her, but it hurts him more.

    Maybe she can make him feel a twinge of guilt or regret over what he’s done. Maybe. If not, at least she gets cake.

    But for real, she’s upset and wants to hurt him back, and make sure he knows he’s not a good person, because he probably gaslit her and has been denying it for a while.

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        7 months ago

        You’re not wrong, but that’s also not how people think in that situation.

        The whole reason he cheated on her is because he is comfortable with her and likes being with her, he just also felt like he could get away with getting something on the side for nothing.

        I’ve been on both sides of this, and from his side, you’re feeling guilty, exposed, and like a piece of shit. You sit there and take your licks because you think you owe it to the person you cheated on. And in some ways, you do, and more.

        The human brain isn’t rational when it comes to this stuff. He’s probably wanting to save/fix things and willing to sit through and endure punishment to keep the thing he’s afraid he’s about to lose forever. The thing that was good, except for this one aspect of it he got from someone else…

        At least that’s what’s going through his head.

        The truth is cheating is never excusable, always break up or end things first. Again, on both sides of this, it’s a shitty, shitty thing to do and there’s no excuse that is worth hurting the other person like this.