sorry to hear. it does sound like you’re both being decent and mature about it, which is small comfort but far more than many can say.

Sorry to hear. Break up of long term relationship is one of the hardest life events. Good that things are amicable with partner. Life might be hard for a while but if the relationship wasn’t working it will also be a fresh start once the dust settles.

Sorry to hear this, Dan. Sucks not to have a backup for the life admin, but this is a skill that can be learned. You may find that the solo life is just right for you and kid once you’ve learned how to do it. And the peeps here can be relied on to put in their two cents worth if asked.

I’m truly sorry Dan. I don’t know how old your child is but be mindful of unloading your anger or sadness about the divorce on them. It can can have long term effects.

I’m so sorry .

Oh shit man I’m sorry you’re going through this. May your cloud have a silver lining 🙏

Well, this sucks, and Im sorry. If you’re up for it, how about we take a different view on this? If you’re up for it. You’re absolutely entitled to wallow in misery of course!

I am sorry. Know you can do this.

Shit sorry, sending you good vibes and my love. My Mum and Dad broke up when I was 13, after the same amount of time together (i was an accident lol), but my Dad is doing great! You will too, it’ll take time, allow yourself to grieve, but things will feel better in time 💜💜

Oof, I hate when I have appointments on the same day but like hours a part. Especially since I don’t drive it’s like “uhh… how do I fill the time in between?”

Yoo can doo et Bacon! Bite et’s freekin’ head off!

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Our society has a very messed up view of weight. You get the same sorts of comments about being sick - someone is really sick and it causes them to use weight and you will have a ton of people piping up with “I could do with some of that” type comments. People with severe illnesses get comments about how great they look because they have lost weight.

The other ones that annoys me is that when talking about food we use “healthy” to mean low calorie, and we call a metabolism that uses lots of energy “efficient” (would you call your car efficient because it uses more fuel?). Yes obesity can be a problem, but thin is not inherently healthy, and losing weight can be a very bad medical sign.

I lost weight due to my poverty-life. I felt ashamed that I lost weight because I only lost it due to being poorer than I was, so I just tell people I’m OMAD (one meal a day/intermittent fasting) but don’t reccomend it to anyone. Also, in part due to smoking ciggies, they’re appetite supressors. I am very unhealthy, despite eating healthy, as I am usually quite hungry all the time and I lead a very sedentary lifestyle. And yet I am still considered ‘fat’ by society, somehow. Like, no. I will not starve myself further because society (men) thinks I should be 50kg-60kg. It’s hard enough to maintain the 70kg-75kg that I am without slipping further down the scale.

Also, yeah, fat does not mean unhealthy. The only time I would consider it unhealthy is when someone is like, 200kg-400kg. But I also consider it unhealthy to be under 50kg. But I also dont know everyone’s story and am not a doctor or their doctor, both under 50kg and over 200kg could be, and probably are, living much healthier lifestyles than I.

I think it ought to be the norm to not judge anyone for their weight. And those ads for diet pills make me want to hurt someone lol

For all you people interested in “diet culture” and how society views weight, nutrition, health etc, I very strongly recommend the podcast “Maintenance Phase”

I hate the judgement people lump on us for not being some fucked up influencer / media ideal of beauty and that that pertains to health somehow.

That a psychiatrist passed judgement over your weight when he was treating a neurodivergence (I assume) I find fucking gross too honestly. “Here vunerable person, have my 2 cents worth about your appearance”

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I would have said yeah wasn’t Jesus gay?

Many years ago, was on the 64 tram and reading Religion and the Decline of Magic by Keith Thomas. An elderly gent in full hasidic dress opposite me leaned forward and told me I was going to Hell for reading such a book.
It’s actually about the counter-reformation and the decline of the witch cult (as imagined at the time).
I’m not sure elderly gent actually knew that - but must have seen the picture on the front with an alchemist’s laboratory as imagined by a 17th century artist. Lots of alembics and stuffed crocodiles and mystik diagrams on the floor and nekkid wimmen holding said alembics. All very symbolic. Gave him a death stare but didn’t say anything.

Good job standing up for yourself.

That made me laugh. Brilliant.

I feel that the whole M-F bullshit is the worst lie that we have accepted.

100%. You feel like you’ve just started relaxing and then bam. The Monday morning alarm clock.

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Bring on the 4 day work week for same pay!

Think I might have heard of this one. The number of Current Affairs episodes on neighbour disputes over fences and how feral people get absolutely blow my mind too. Crazy stuff.

That’s scary as.

As someone who grew up driving 4x4s (and still drives them) this is also my take. Also if you are driving a big car, park at the back of the carpark, means the hatchbacks and the sedans don’t have to play chicken when reversing out.

You mean like… The radius of the earth… The breeding cycle of mice, that kind of thing? That would be cool

What are you learning about?

It happens fairly often for us. I’ve brought it up and the response has been, sorry but I thought you’d already know…

I noticed myself literally eating angrily these days. Usually it’s some sort of resentment about not having prepared earlier or the time that it’s taken for the food to be ready. I’m reverting back to my infant self on a high chair.

that is the worst feeling

I love kedgeree. This is always a winner. Could make it even more filling with lentils (closer to the original Indian inspiration, khichdi).

I like cooking the onions then adding the rice to the pot and cooking it with the spices and fish water/oil from the tin, so that it absorbs even more flavour (like a pilaf?), then adding the fish and fresh herbs right at the end. And drained/rinsed tinned brown lentils if I want. It still stays a relatively simple one pot meal.

Sounds -and looks- great!

Here’s the easiest recipe I know.

I chuck in some canned mackerel instead of salmon and use spaghetti instead of linguine. It’s so simple you could probably substitute pretty much anything. Chicken would probably go well instead of fish.

Surprisingly tasty for such a simple dish. I guess it’s mainly how nice is your olive oil XD. When I do a batch, I cook double size and freeze half, so I’ve got a lazy meal ready as well.

Fkn love kedgeree! Although my family’s version is extremely bastardised, we don’t boil the eggs we crack them over the rice and fish and scramble them through. Looks like a mushy paste but everyone in the family goes nuts for it, especially in winter.

Yummm. I’m going to try this one soon! (With white rice because brown rice sucks)

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That sucks 😞 I always feel like it wouldn’t hurt the practice to notify the dr’s patients. Same thing happened to Mr Peeler. It can be hard and daunting finding a Dr you connect with and who gets you.