• jeffw@lemmy.worldOP
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    5 months ago

    Did you think I made up the title lol?

    And I get what you mean. But the data seems to say that women are the primary caregivers. If men were to do most of the cooking, wouldn’t we say women are helping in the kitchen? Maybe lawn care is a more realistic example. I think the second party is often described as “helping out”

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      5 months ago

      I did, yeah, sorry 😄

      No, when someone on a team is doing their job, you don’t call it helping, you just call it doing your job. I’m not helping by doing laundry, I’m just doing laundry. I’m not babysitting, I’m taking care of my kids. I’m not helping with cooking, I’m making dinner. And so on.

      Women are the primary caregivers because men aren’t doing their part, not because they aren’t helping. It is their job to be a partner and an active participating adult as well as the woman’s.

      The kids help sometimes but the man is doing his job.