Bonus points if someone warned you and you went ahead anyway.

  • Drunemeton@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Before you share unasked for information with someone consider these two points:

    1. Is this a teachable moment?
    2. Does this person want to be taught?

    If the answer is No to either one or both, keep to yourself.

    In related news: Sometimes people want to vent, sometimes they want solutions. If you don’t know which one is needed it’s okay to ask!

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      5 months ago

      That’s sensible advice - often, sharing the info sounds like “I assume that you’re an ignorant, so let me enlighten you little thing”. And/or fails to take into account relevant, but unmentioned details.

      However, when discussing in public (like here), and in more general grounds, there’s a complicating factor - the audience. Often what you say might not be useful to the person whom you’re replying to, but it might still be for someone else.

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      5 months ago

      Regarding the venting sometimes people don’t want a solution they just want to vent.