Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 year agoWhen you vet someone for whether you can be close friends with them, what's a seemingly unimpactful characteristic about someone that would instantly rule them out as a potential close friend for you?message-squaremessage-square62fedilinkarrow-up186
arrow-up186message-squareWhen you vet someone for whether you can be close friends with them, what's a seemingly unimpactful characteristic about someone that would instantly rule them out as a potential close friend for you?Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 year agomessage-square62fedilink
minus-squareCanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.orglinkfedilinkarrow-up33·1 year agoMaybe you don’t like the wording, but everyone does this. Unless you know if someone will be a close friend the moment you lay eyes on them, or are friends with literally everyone you’ve spent time with.
minus-squareCanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.orglinkfedilinkarrow-up2·1 year agoThen it’s unconscious. Hopefully the criteria are ones you’d agree with if they were conscious.
minus-squareRiker_Maneuver@startrek.websitelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up6·1 year agoFor real this seems like a major red flag.
Being “vetted” by them…
Maybe you don’t like the wording, but everyone does this. Unless you know if someone will be a close friend the moment you lay eyes on them, or are friends with literally everyone you’ve spent time with.
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Then it’s unconscious. Hopefully the criteria are ones you’d agree with if they were conscious.
For real this seems like a major red flag.