i don’t really need advice yet, it’s just a question. a girl im friends with acts really odd. we are friends, and we used to talk a lot, but then she started getting quieter, making less eye contact.
she also started being tenser/snippy at times.
when she’s not snippy, she’s just very quiet, which is most of the time. sometimes she’ll scoot over next to me but then scoot away, or act like she wants to sit by me but then goes away.
she doesn’t seem to be acting rude at all or mad at me. she will be nice, like smiling and waving and saying “hello”, or energetic when she can respond over text, so i don’t believe i’ve done anything to hurt her, but it’s just been really odd. what, from your experience, make a friend start acting this way? (especially girl because idk about guy friend behaviors)
most of the time, she acts normal, and i appreciate our friendship, and she seems to not hate me or anything like i said
update: i asked bc i was curious abt her behavior as friends, not just wondering if she liked me or anything even if that’s the impression some of y’all get 😭
Idk man I think she might like you. I used to be like that as a teen, extra self conscious in front of my crushes
This is my take as well. She’s happy to see/ talk to you, but she thinks she’s sending out some kind of hint or another then gets moody when she thinks you haven’t picked up on a vague hint and responded in kind.
If she’s said you can come over (again, vaguely vs outright asking you to come hang out on X day), then ask her if this Saturday would be good? Figure out a movie to stream. After you start it, get a cozy blanket and ask her if she wants to snuggle while watching the movie?
This would have totally worked on teen me.
She’s usually busy with sports/inactive on phone. plus, she and her ex like each other (tho she says it’s not true, they flirt and ex fs likes her) and her ex happens to be a close friend
But i’ll try asking
If she says she doesn’t like him like that, she might be telling the truth.
But she might also have something personal going on she can’t talk about. Give it time and either it will come out, or it won’t, and this is just how she is now.