That’s it. Our instance requires us to stop responding if you explicitly ask us to. It’s right here buried in our Code of Conduct
Any discussions may be opted out of by disengaging.
In the past, this rule has only applied to the specific user you say it to. I’d like to suggest going forward that if someone on another instance uses it, we treat it as applying to all of us.
Unfortunately this rule wasn’t communicated clearly before, so I’m making this post for visibility.
Edit: As the comments clarify, this has to be done in good faith, typically just a one word “disengage” comment. If you add more stuff to the discussion and then say “disengage” at the end, you’re not disengaging, it’s a way to put a stop to a toxic argument not to get the last word in.
Why? What’s the logic behind it? Whats the difference between saying “disengage” and just not replying anymore? To me it seems like saying “disengage” is just a more subtle way of ending the convo by saying “fuck you!”
It’s usually used when someone won’t stop spamming replies
That’s only happened to me here like twice
Plus you can block them.
Idk, I’ve seen it used a couple times between Hexbear users, and it seemed useful as an announcement that one party was stepping away from that particular conversation, and didn’t want either party to invest any more time or emotion into it for both their sakes. Given that the conversation was, for the most part, on friendly terms, just got a little passionate, the disengagement wasn’t meant to be a fuck you exit like people are presupposing it to be used with hostile users from outside HB.
*at least that’s how I interpreted its usage