• Vodulas [they/them]@beehaw.org
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    4 days ago

    Join a hiking group/club, and don’t do it with the express intent of dating. I’m not saying don’t hope, but don’t because you enjoy the activity

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      3 days ago

      I haven’t seen any good hiking groups in my area. The ones that exist on meetup.com are mostly “people with grey hairs” … and there’s nothing wrong with that other than I just turned 30 last month.

      It’s been that way throughout my twenties.

      I’d joined a “young professionals” group and was starting to meet some people that way but … it ended up dying out over the pandemic.

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        Well, I’m sure these grey haired people would be more than happy to hike with you and introduce you (more or less subtly) to the people they have in their life of your approximate age and gender-preference.

        As they are older (and not just more stressed) they are still used to help people meet “organically”.

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          Yeah, that’s not terrible advice.

          I think I’m just a bit … demoralized about that … since I do know a lot of older folks (I literally shoveled the driveways of 4 older neighbors this winter and have various 50+ friends) and no help has come from that direction…

          I might give it a shot though, thanks

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        3 days ago

        Is there an outfitter like REI in your city? They often have classes and clubs as well. You could also try something new. Maybe since you like video games, give board or tabletop games a try and go to a local game shop for a game night.