He isn’t even homeless. He lives in an RV or something in his girlfriend’s mom’s driveway and does nothing but smoke fetty and suck all the air out of this community, making it harder for people like me who actually fucking need money. And he sends his girlfriend out to collect recycling and panhandle all night, alone. He’s an absolute piece of shit to her. He is an absolute piece of shit. Stop sending him money.
It makes me so fucking angry how I have to beg and plead to get sent anything, while he’s apparently getting sent hundreds of dollars. I remember once one of his posts was even pinned for a while. What the fuck?
P.S. Technically BaileyDee is his girlfriend’s account, but of course he doesn’t let her use it. You can tell it’s him posting.
It’s the classic conundrum that you see with real life direct assistance. Get your wallet out and suddenly three very well built men are surrounding you against a wall. Or maybe you get shit thrown at you by the mentally ill. Or get a knife pulled on you. I don’t even give a shit what they use the money for but I’m not risking my safety to do it.
And I know that sounds incredibly liberal but this is my lived experience, not some scaremonger suburban fear. I live in a bad neighborhood where homeless folks get stabbed for fun and OD on the sidewalk at noon.
It’s why donating directly to aid groups and vetted charities will help the most people and stretch your dollar the furthest.
However, that doesn’t mean I advocate for ignoring mutual aid entirely. This community is definitely a lifeline for many. I think setting a firm aid budget within your financial means and diversifying who you send it to might be a good strategy. Maybe a burner account so you can throw away a PayPal account, etc. at any time if needed.